[This message edited by tryin2bhappy at 10:41 PM, April 6th (Sunday)]
Divorce filed 1/2/14
Divorce Final 3/24/14
Moving right along, whether I want to or not
I don't think I am really rid of the anger enough to be ready to date but I would love the confirmation of some male attention. I would love the distraction. I would love some companionship too.
Good luck if you do decide to make some forays into dating.
[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 4:58 AM, April 7th (Monday)]
BUT, that relationship also sharpened what I am looking for. After that, I have been a much better dater.
Start volunteering, cultivate good friendships, focus on yourself. The past is done and you can only look forward. Just keep yourself busy so the downtime isn't as painful. Join MeetUp groups in your area.
If I have a down weekend without plans (pretty rare these days…), then I make a date with myself and rent a movie I've been wanting to see, and order out my favorite food and just enjoy my life.
Dating because you are lonely isn't the answer. Create yourself a good life so that you attract a good partner. That is much more the answer.
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
And then, when you like most of your life, I think it is perfectly okay to date without wanting a relationship (just companionship). Just be upfront in your profile (if you go the OLD route) and in your intentions and in your words to your dates. I think many people are in a similar situation, and it isn't problematic unless or until the two people have different intentions.
If you think you are, or may be ready to date, try it. Be up front with yourself and other's about your intentions. See what happens...see what you learn about yourself. If it feels like "too much" retreat for awhile...