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User Topic: Posting Goals Here
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am posting this to help myself stay true to myself.

I am going to work on my health and lose 25 lbs or more.

I going to cut back social activities.

I am going to think like a manager and manage my life again.

I hope this works!


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll join you.

I also want to lose 25 pounds.

I want to leave work on time at least 3 days per week.

I want to do one thing just for me each week.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7615 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Accountability is good, my dear friend :)

My goals are to read 52 books this year and to add two more states to my 50-state marathon goal.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3345 | Registered: Dec 2011
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will join you:

I am going to lose 15 pounds.

I am going to continue to cut back social activities.

I am going to make an effort to attend church every Sunday and get involved with at least one of their charitable activities.

I am going to save more money now that my renter is out and I have remodeled.

Let's go for it!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1253 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will join you.

I want to lose 15 pounds.

I want to increase social activities.

I want to exercise Atleast 3 times per week.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2669 | Registered: Jan 2010
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My goals are to get my spending in order and my finances on track and to put more effort into getting new projects at work. To keep going to the gym/exercising and to cook and entertain a lot once I'm in my new apartment!

Those intending to cut back on social activities...may I ask the thinking? Are you feeling over-extended? I have always done a lot socially, and I guess I'm curious if maybe hearing your perspective on dialing back might make me take a closer look at my habits!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4129 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Smashedat58
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, you can do it. I did. I lost 20 lbs on the infidelity diet. I wear a size 6, now. I look great, and he looks like shit. We don't look like we belong together, any more, and we don't. I wouldn't give him a second look, now.

Posts: 166 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay accountability is good-

I said no a few times and out about 6 nights this week- slight improvement.

Ate out of the vending machine a few times

Plan:

Bring snacks to work
Say No 4 days out of the week.

Focus on organizing my life!

I will do this I have no choice- my life is important to me!

Thank you for the support!

I did increase my water by 4 extra glasses a day!

[This message edited by fireproof at 9:23 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brought snacks to work and ate vegetables for dinner.

Cleaning and staying active.

Going to try the money in the envelope idea

Going to try and stay positive!


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Left on time twice this week!

Down 3 pounds!

Gonna try to cook something healthy tonight. Woot!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7615 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fun goal this year:
Run my first marathon!!!!!

More pissy goals:
Cut back on spending
Do something for me every week
Get rid of the crap in my house

What I did this past week...
Ran three days
Used my dd's sick day today to get rid of 6 trash bags of crap
Bought a new heat pump - NOT cutting back. Need to stop coloring my hair in the salon, cancel cable and phone, and lean down my security system.

Sigh...


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The posts are great! Even one small step makes all the difference!

I am working on sleep too and put my $ for the month in a envelope.

I hope this works!


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I exercised but spent most of my money in the envelope this weekend.

I guess I am spending more than I thought.

I might have found a solution with the envelopes to track my spending.


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I lost a few pounds but gained a few back this weekend.

I needed a huge break and went out and discovered it is a scary out there but it is baby steps.

Maybe the rest of the week will go as planned


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 5:20 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had been so focused on the goals I have already accomplished over the last couple of years that I feel a bit lost right now ...

I have accomplished:
1. Divorce
2. Moving back to my home state
3. Re-learning how to stand on my own two feet without the support (financial or otherwise) from others.
4. Simply "finding" myself again
5. Loving "me"
6. Living on my own for the very first time in my life.
7. I have lost 45 pounds since being home and I feel great

So many things have happened over the last year that were not in my plans:
1. Broken ties with family and some friends due to my new boundaries and self-integrity
2. SO was never in my plans ... But I am so grateful for his presence in my life.
3. My DS and DD growth and struggles with their father (my X)

New Goals:
1. Continue to get in better physical condition ... I need to work out and loose another 15 to 20 pounds. My BMI is borderline and I need to work on that this spring and summer.
2. Continue to learn about who I am
3. Quit smoking
4. Either go back to school and or find a better paying position
5. Enjoy my freedom and new found happiness of just being "me" more.


Posts: 386 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think your accomplishments sound great!

Honestly I am awful at mine right now.

I don't know if it is that I feel unimportant or I am just scared to try again.

Tomorrow is another day. Hopefully I can change my course.


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wise SI people- how do I get past the block?

I am just not motivated- I am more project oriented - maybe volunteering.

I need to succeed!

Any thoughts would be helpful!


Posts: 959 | Registered: Jul 2012
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would like to:

Start working out. There's a boxing gym near my house that I think I'll join.

Make some friends. I stopped talking to all but one of my friends when I was with my ex. Bad move. I need new ones.

Start dating. I feel like I'm ready and to be honest, I've been feeling kind of lonely lately. I'd really like someone to share life with.


Posts: 1673 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, April 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wise SI people- how do I get past the block?

Start with very small things. Things that are clearly obtainable so once you do it, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and it will snowball into other items.

Example:

Big, overwhelming goal - Get my house in order.

Babystep goal - Replace my mailbox that the snowplow guy beat the heck out of.

Mailbox is a small job....but one that I will see each day when I pull in my drive and feel good about.

Ok - back to the topic:

Goal:

Replace my mailbox.


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2096 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, May 15th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update because I need to keep myself accountable:

Lost 5 pounds

Have not been successful on cutting back on social activities

Bills increased - might require drastic measures cash only

Created an exercise plan

Realize I seriously need a life makeover and more downtime.

I would give myself a 2 but hopefully I can improve

How is everyone else doing?


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