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User Topic: I admire you
Mhiimg65
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I admire you" was spoken to me tonight by WH. He is off traveling and we spoke by phone. I was baffled at first and asked "why?"

He said " I don't think I could handle what you've been through the way you have".

There was more, but it's probably one of the greatest compliments I've ever gotten from anyone. I'm glorifying and crying at the same time.

Nothing more, nothing less...just a happy moment in my living Hell.
Needed to tell somebody...Maybe he's finally seeing things through something other than his "rose colored glass" , and thinking of something other than his own Hell.


" He paved paradise and put up a parking lot"
BS - me
WS- him
married 26 years, together since kids
D- Day Jan 4 2014
PMA- starting this moment
R - in MC. WH is in IC

Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
RippedSoul
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful! So happy for you. :)

Weekly, I share with my counselor less significant but still similar moments. At first, I would apologize for thinking they were so important and for feeling so hopeful about them, but she agreed with me that these little steps, all going in the right direction, were actually huge.

Our stories--yours and mine--are remarkably alike. My SLAWH and I have been married almost 23 years; he met OW in Jun '12 and carried on an EA/PA with her until Nov '12 when she dropped him. He acted out with a prostitute and 2 escorts in Dec '12/Jan '13, confessed end of Jan '13, and committed some less heinous (but still hurtful) crimes like porn/hook-up sites for 6 months and continued his "friendship" with her until 4 months (?) ago. Recently, he told me that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him. I am. I know it. But hearing that he recognizes it is both soothing and exciting.

My hat's off to you. You ARE admirable!!! And kudos to your WH for having the courage to say it.


BW: 49; SLAWH: 46; M: 23 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute #1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (AP, escorts #1 & #2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 20; DD: 18; DS: 16; DS: 14
PS: I've NEVER NOT edited my posts

Posts: 461 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
cbrum84
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thats Great! My H has actually said this to me too. But I took it a whole different way. BAD WAY...oops! Seeing you write that made me think that maybe I should take the nice things he says and celebrate them and not think too much about what he wants...or why he is saying...did he do something? I guess that will come in time. Thanks for your positive post!

Posts: 77 | Registered: Jan 2014
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful post. Very nice to be appreciated. It does take a tremendous amount of work NOT to run from this pain. Not only from the selfish nature we all possess, but from the many societal examples of "what to do when someone hurts you badly".

A WS ran from their BS with MUCH less reason or stimulation to do so. It appears your husband is realizing and appreciating this.

This bodes well for your M. I will say a prayer for you both now.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4012 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Mhiimg65
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ripped Soul-
Our stories--yours and mine--are remarkably alike.

I'm sorry to have this in common with anybody. It sounds like you are much further along in your R.

but she agreed with me that these little steps, all going in the right direction, were actually huge.

One has to have hope, yes?

A WS ran from their BS with MUCH less reason or stimulation to do so. It appears your husband is realizing and appreciating this.

This bodes well for your M. I will say a prayer for you both now.

Thank you Blakesteele. Prayers appreciated. There is a lot of work to be done, and I'm already exhausted and so is H, but I'm hopeful we can do this together. I just wish I never had this challenge. But I am optimistic that some day we can forge through and come out on the "other side of yesterday".


" He paved paradise and put up a parking lot"
BS - me
WS- him
married 26 years, together since kids
D- Day Jan 4 2014
PMA- starting this moment
R - in MC. WH is in IC

Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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