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User Topic: What to do? he keeps rubbing it in my face that he's happy..
tara1110
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does anyone here know about the TANGO app? It's like Skype but you can make your own profile, post pics and add profile pics, etc. I do NC with him... We talk about our son and finances only. I have Facebook and I blocked him and OW. But I also have this tango app on my cellphone for when he video calls my son. STBXH posted a pic of him and OW hugging and kissing on his profile... Obviously he knows I can see it... And here we go again.... I bawled my eyes out again after I saw the pic and feeling all weak and hurt and just stepped on multiple times.... How long will I stay this way? I'm just so tired of being hurt and feeling this way...

[This message edited by tara1110 at 8:29 PM, April 1st (Tuesday)]


Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: North Carolina
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry tara, it sucks that you have to see that. He has no class and obviously is doing this for a reaction.

Fuck him.

They will always post the glitter. They will scream it at the top of their lungs, "Look at me! I'm happy, I'm happy! Everything is sparkly here in affairyland."

Can you put the app on an Ipad or some other device so you don't have to have it on your phone?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4610 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Klove
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh- that is just repulsive and childish.
I hate him for you.


"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

Posts: 294 | Registered: Jan 2014
tara1110
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have it both in the iPad and my cellphone. My son is only 2yrs old and he will still need my help answering his calls either way..... OMG I feel so hurt right now....


Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: North Carolina
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. So mature of him. I'd suspend those calls until your son can answer the phone himself. Or his own phone. 2 is too young, imo. He's TRYING to hurt you. If they were that happy, they wouldn't need to prove it, kwim?
Sorry he's a child.
Hugs.


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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tara1110
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just don't get it... What else does he want? I don't bother him... I couldn't find any reason for him that I did to hurt me even more like this.... This sucks...


Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: North Carolina
kg201
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would telling him that you won't do the video conferencing with him if he keeps the photo up a possibility?

How about FaceTime instead?


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 667 | Registered: Aug 2013
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are bonding over you. YOU are the glue holding their sick relationship together. They will use you to feed their crazy.
Best bet? Go radio silence on these two idiots. React to NOTHING. IT WILL TAKE THE WIND OUT OF THEIR SAILS!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

Posts: 1178 | Registered: Jun 2007
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What Ark said. Absolutely NO response from you. None. Come here and cry...we get it!! It was a terribly childish and hurtful thing to do.

As far as your ex...you don't even know the pic exists...it means nothing...not even worth your mental space.

At least that is what he needs to think. Get on that high road, honey. Like someone else said...that's just the sparkly stuff. We don't get to see the pic where they are all spooned up together and she farts on him.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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tara1110
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys... I don't want to even mention it to him... I'll give him the crickets. I think I'll do facetime instead of tango... I've never used it but I'll do that instead...


Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: North Carolina
Leia
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've used face time with STBXWH before he was a STBXWH. It worked out all right for us, and you don't have to see those pics. I'm rather technically challenged so if I can use it, I'm sure you can too


"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars

Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an immature pig. He's trying to hurt you to make himself feel better. Ignore him dumb ass. He's pathetic and so is she.

Delete Tango off your phone. (There is no way I'd have that disgusting picture on my phone.) Use facetime.


I don't get these fucked up people. Like it's not bad enough that they completely destroyed our lives. No. Now they have to traumatize us on top of it.

W.T.F?


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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lastdance
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

why do you even do face time with him......he left his son,abandoned him for the other woman....why do you have to be responsible to make sure he has contact with the son he abandoned.........that is not your responsibility........stop the emotional attachment with him.....your son is young just tell him dad is on a business trip......you should not let him still have control over you.....he decided to be a part time dad....let him live with his decisions......you are not his wife........let it go.....make excuses and cut the control he has over you.....you need to concentrate on finding a good step-dad for your son.....cut the umbilical cord.......

Posts: 152 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: orlando, fl
Caretaker1
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Try a 40 something doing the same thing. I deserve a mature, happy, confident person. These 2 like the jerk I am divorcing are two peas in a pod. Hope it works out lol yrs being sarcastic is this high school?
fart on each other oh please .....she found her yes man and wait ....they will both work hard at making it work. You need a real man not some immature wimp.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 10:44 PM, April 1st (Tuesday)]


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((tara1110))))) I think he is pretty pathetic to post a picture of him and OW knowing you can see it. I mean, really really pathetic. Once you finally "get" why he posts these types of pics, you will be laughing your ass off!

Also, I'm so sorry to hear that your TANGO got a bug and you had to delete the app. I guess you will HAVE to use FaceTime instead. Bummerrrssss.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2146 | Registered: Oct 2012
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are bonding over you. YOU are the glue holding their sick relationship together. They will use you to feed their crazy.
Best bet? Go radio silence on these two idiots. React to NOTHING. IT WILL TAKE THE WIND OUT OF THEIR SAILS!

I never thought of it like this.


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2072 | Registered: Jan 2012
SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:12 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another vote for crickets and a change to FaceTime.

What a douchebag. I'm guessing he doesn't use tango for other stuff. I don't know the app but unless it is linked to his FB and uses that profile pic then he has done this on purpose.

Interestingly this means he's looking for a little glue already. Don't be their glue - they don't matter one little but. Fake it till you make it. Stop yourself even thinking about them - divert your thinking when you notice you're doing it. Daydream about your own future instead.

FTG.


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Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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hummingbird8
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last dance, just because they are divorced does not mean he abandoned her son. He has a right to talk to him and be in his life. A lot of divorces are now including things like Skype or Face time for contact. He chose not to be married anymore, not to be a part time father.

Tara, I know it hurts and I agree with everyone else. Ignore it or change to a different service. Any reaction out of you will give them what they want.


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whiteflower99
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Tara))))

What this made me think of was desperation.
"I'm happy!!!! I'm so so happy!!!! Don't you believe I'm happy? Look how happy I am!! See? See? I AM happy! I'm HAPPY dammit!"

Just my opinion but if he WAS that happy would he HAVE to plaster it over the web? Maybe OW is behind it.
Ignore.
They're two slugs mating.
Crickets = salt.


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1701 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
Sadmumma
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, April 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lastdance. (Gently) That advice was not helpful, and if custody agreements are in effect could be quite damaging. Yes, at times I'm sure many BS in that position want to do just that, but it benefits neither the child nor the situation.

Tara... Someone once told me that the ones who flaunt happiness the most usually have the most problems.... Is there some other app where you don't have to look at his face? Skype? FaceTime (if he is an apple user) ?


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

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