Just like rachelc, I have the same question: Why be married then, if you can’t open up????
I am probably the strangest and oddest of the male folk but married to the strangest and oddest of the women folk. Here’s how I mean:
I find it easy to express my struggles and by needs both sexually and emotionally. I am very good – maybe excessively good - at expressing displeasure when there is displeasure and acknowledgement when I encounter such. My problem is that unlike most women, WW is very closed, inhibited and bottled up and rarely opens up to me. Yet she is known to open up to others: relatives, friends and most recently, APs, who were ex flames. During R she becomes even more closed to open up on the details of the A.
I find it easy to open with WW but why is it that WW finds it easy to open up with others and NOT me. I have repeatedly pointed this to her, particularly during the 1 year R journey, that what I miss in our M is the companionship arising from the sharing of inner struggles. Could it be we were not meant be soul mates? I just can’t get it.
We will be clocking one year since DD this month and I will be hard pressed to say we have made significant progress in connecting at all.
Indeed, why be married then, if you can open up???
Me = BS(48)
WW = 46
M = 10 years
DD = April, 20, 2013
Painstaking R journey.