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User Topic: Rough Day
SeekingPeace84
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Member # 42765
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm doing the 180, I'm in IC, I'm doing the assignments my therapist gives me. I'm getting up and getting dressed in the morning. I'm eating regularly, drinking water and getting a semi-adequate amount of sleep. I'm journaling, reading self-help books, and keeping in touch with my former Pastor. I'm doing all these things, and yet.....I feel utterly destroyed. Like there are only distorted fragments of me left.

I'm assuming it's pretty normal for me to feel empty and shell-like right now, but it feels like absolute shit.

This blows.


Me: BS
Him: WH (3 month OEA)
Known each other all our lives, Together 5.5 yrs, Married 4 yrs.
D-day: 3/8/14
Separated 3/8/14 and currently seeking IC

Posts: 56 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
JustOneMoreDay
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Member # 42945
Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am absolutely right there with you. I have already been through this journey once and still, the pain is overwhelming and I don't know how to stop it.

Just wanted you to know that you aren't alone.


Me -BS 39
Him-WS 38
Dday #1 February 14, 2003 EA(not a typo. He did it AGAIN eleven years later)
Dday #2 March 17, 2014 LT PA
Dday #3 June 29, 2014(found evidence something had gone on with his sister's best friend)
Dying Inside and in limbo

Posts: 125 | Registered: Mar 2014
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is so normal and so hard. But keep at it's it truly, truly gets better. The pain lifts from time to time, and you remember how much you have ahead of you in life, and your friends help, and your family helps, and you're good to yourself...and time passes, and you stay in IC and everyone reminds you what you already know, that you are going to be okay, that you are going to pull through and be even stronger.

Just keep hanging in there, rough day after rough day, and more and more you will feel like yourself again. This is the worst part. Just be good to yourself and keep up the healthy choices, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

You got this. You will be okay. There is a brighter future ahead, waiting for you. The pain does not last forever.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
SeekingPeace84
♀ Member
Member # 42765
Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you both so much. This community that I found has been an absolute life-saver. I feel better. Not great, but better. And that's good enough for tonight. :-)


Me: BS
Him: WH (3 month OEA)
Known each other all our lives, Together 5.5 yrs, Married 4 yrs.
D-day: 3/8/14
Separated 3/8/14 and currently seeking IC

Posts: 56 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
yme32313
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Member # 42091
Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the beginning is truly hard, I'm 8 months from DDay and I at times still cry and try to get over what I've been through. I'm seeking counseling and taking anti anxiety pills. You'll have your moments and if you need to cry then just cry. I was crying everyday and now I'm crying at least 1-2 times a week. It does get better with time.


Me: 31
H: 55
Dated: Aug. 2003 M: Mar. 2013
Cheated: While dating

Posts: 184 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New Mexico
justinpaintoday
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Member # 42858
Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lately i've had the pleasure of several minutes of numbness. Aaaahhh what a relief from misery.


I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.

Posts: 700 | Registered: Mar 2014
LeftOutintheCold
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Member # 42856
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SeekingPeace - I totally hear you and feel you. I'm right there feeling just like you are. Sometimes words just aren't strong enough to describe the void in our souls. You are not alone.


Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
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