Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: kassidy (45053)

Off Topic Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Allergies??
jrc1963
♀ Member
Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you develop allergies to something you've lived around your whole life?

DS says whenever he's at this Dad's house he gets very stuffy and itchy and sneezy...

His dad has two cats... They are the same cats we had when we lived together and DS was a baby.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24538 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
ThoughtIKnewYa
♀ Member
Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does he keep the house clean- furniture vacuumed, etc.? If not, your son could be reacting to common allergens, like dust.

I've been allergic to cats my whole life and I've found the best way for ME to deal with it (not saying this is for everyone) is to live with a bunch of cats. I actually think I'm a lot less sensitive to their dander because of it.


Posts: 11685 | Registered: Mar 2008
simplydevastated
♀ Member
Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you develop allergies to something you've lived around your whole life?

Absolutely.

I used to have three dogs growing up. Now I'm allergic to them. I can't be in the same room with them. If a dog owner smells like their dog my allergies act up. My cat allergy isn't as bad as my dog allergy, I have two cats.

His system probably changed and now he's allergic to the cats.

Someone told me that your system changes every seven years. I don't know how true that is, but...

If his allergy is bad he may need to carry medication with him.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
dameia
♀ Member
Member # 36072
Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've also heard the every 7 years thing! I don't know if its accurate, but that is what I was told.

I have also developed new allergies. I never had any when I was young. Nothing too bad, but I do notice my eyes begin to itch when my cats sit on my lap for too long, and my nose gets runny. I grew up with cats and never had a problem, but now, at 33, I have an allergy (albeit a minor one).


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.


Posts: 1155 | Registered: Jul 2012
purplejacket4
♀ Member
Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, the older you get generally the more things you're allergic to.

Allergies are just when the immune system is healthy and wants to "fight" something. In our hygienic society that's going to be inanimate microscopic objects that resemble proteins of bacteria, parasites and viruses. The other choice is the body fighting itself (autoimmune diseases).

The best treatment for allergies is to avoid the trigger. However we all live in the real world where that's often not possible.

Non med treatment:
Vacuum, dust, HEPA filters, plastic coverings for mattresses and furniture, avoid carpets, drapes, upholstery.

Ha ha. I'm a doctor with severe allergies and I can only manage the HEPA filter (although I have no drapes and I'll be tearing the carpet out within a year).

Med treatment:
First line:
Steroid nasal spray: now over the counter: saw them at Costco today for 12 dollars per inhaler, a downright steal.
Second line: antihistamines: older are superior but have the dreaded drowsiness; take only at night or an acute attack; newer ones Claritan, Allegra, and Zyrtec should be ADDED to the nose spray
Third line: rx only Astelin (tastes God awful but works)
Fourth line: adding rx Singulair
Fifth line: allergy shots

Adjunct treatment: mucinex, pseudoehedrine, netipots, humidifiers, nasal saline


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2212 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Bluebird26
♀ Member
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 5:03 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely.

My oldest DS has many allergies (so do I ) . He generally doesn't go to the xwh very often. But when he does he comes home all sinusy and feeling horrible. He is highly allergic to dust mites. The kids have told me numerous times that dad and OW house is very dirty and dusty so I am guessing that is the reason or he's allergic to OW


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1345 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
jo2love
♀ Moderator
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((DS)))

Sadly, yes. I love fruit. At 18yrs old, I became allergic to 1 particular fruit. If I even smell it, my tongue gets itchy and starts to swell. I have to be careful in the grocery store, other people's homes, etc... Can you have him tested at an allergist?


Posts: 35376 | Registered: Mar 2011
jrc1963
♀ Member
Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fortunately for DS he's only at his Dad's house every other weekend and only for two nights...

Unfortunately he usually comes home with a headache and stuffiness that takes about a day to clear up.

Right now he's using Benadryl at night when he's over there.

I'm pretty sure it's the cats... because my house is kinda dusty and that doesn't seem to bother him much.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24538 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
tushnurse
♀ Member
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes it is possible, but is also possible to become no longer allergic, or less sensitive to things too. When I was in my 20's I was constantly getting sinus infections secondary to my mold allergy. I no longer am sensitive to that. I have however developed sensitivity to the Latex fruits (health people know what I mean) I can no longer eat kiwi, banana's pineapple, or mango. Still ok with the advacado, and pray that doesn't change.

My mom was a horrible hayfever person, I mean the whole attack with sneezing uncontrollably for hours on end, and then about 4 years ago it wasn't as bad, and then 3 years ago nothing, and she has not had it since. she also used to be horribly allergic to cats, but can spend about 2 hours in my house before she starts reacting, whereas when we were younger she had to just walk in the door and the sneezing would start.

So Yah it's possible, but doesn't mean forever.
It's also not unusual to have something that is a known irritant not bother you, and then have it get you after some time away from it, ie the cat situation.

I would follow PJ's advice, and see if that doesn't help out.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8592 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Topic Posts: 9

Return to Forum: Off Topic Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.