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User Topic: Gotta cut that shit out
Pass
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My boys told me that their mom had put some pictures up on her facebook page of their Florida holiday. I've blocked her, but I know 10's password, so I signed into his account to look at the pictures.

This was stupid. First of all, just fucking because. Secondly, because I'm sick, and my emotions tend to run a little higher when I'm sick.

I was okay with the pictures of her with Rig Pig's arm around her. I was even okay with the pictures of Rig Pig hanging with my kids.

But there was one picture of her on a couples parasail with Rig Pig. She was holding his arm, laughing, and kicking one leg out in front of her. I keep picturing that leg and getting more upset. I don't know what'n fuck is up with that.

I need to never look at her facebook again. Ever.

And now I'm really fucking sad.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1698 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
kg201
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass....yup. Cut that shit out, my man.

She ain't no good....and neither is her leg.

John Lee will tell you.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dct3qTd0Ko


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 595 | Registered: Aug 2013
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the reminder not to peek at pages of my non-friends.

Sorry you're hurting.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4856 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Remind yourself they're still in the 'honeymoon stage' and the fun and games will likely get a reality jolt down the road. ((((Pass))))


Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where is the picture of them missing their flight and arguing about it at the airport in public?

Yeah, there isn't one, but it happened.

Don't look at the Fake book any more. Nothing good can come of it.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Pass
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where is the picture of them missing their flight and arguing about it at the airport in public?

Ha! You're right. That picture didn't make it into the album!

Thanks everyone. I'm feeling a little better now. I don't know what I found so upsetting about that one picture. It's amazing the stupid things that'll throw you into a depression!

The Princess and her leg definitely count as stupid things.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1698 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry Pass. Glad things are looking up. I know I'm going to avoid seeing pictures of them together like I avoid the plague.

I imagine it feels like having your heart ripped out of your chest repeatedly.


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


Posts: 1714 | Registered: Aug 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's hard to stop revisiting the pain. Fortunately/unfortunately, the suffering when we look is it's own lesson.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 3783 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Klove
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Silly leg.
Any pic of stbxwh and AP would kill me. Ick.
(Hugs)


"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, you need to stop that because they only post the happy, pretty moments.

The ugliness never seems to make it to FB.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't torture yourself!

I have no desire to look at the doosh's pictures (the sight of him still turns my stomach) and I would rather go about my day feeling happy! Leave it, Pass. Just leave it.


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3523 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Once every blue moon, I forget about the fresh pain it can cause, and I go back to it. Maybe I'll have learned this time?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1698 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all do it until we remember the pain the last time we did it BEFORE we do it again.

No good can come from it - you think you want to see something that makes you happy or something that makes this easier but in reality it is a form of self harm.

((pass)). NC = No New Hurts. Be gentle with yourself.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5441 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, March 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been there, done that. My daughter was sitting next to me as I scrolled through pictures from a wedding and saw some of ex and OW slow dancing. I said "Ouch," to which she very practically said, "Well, stop looking."


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

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