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User Topic: Dying inside.
lastdance
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

please see a doctor for stds........do tell the other wifes........they are at risk for AIDS......we females have to look out for one another,,,,,,,,,,since the men that vowed to protect us from harm are having unprotected sex with strangers,,,,,,coming home and possibly infecting us with diseases that can kill us...take care of yourself

Posts: 153 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: orlando, fl
JustOneMoreDay
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for all the thoughtful responses.

I feel pretty numb today.

I believe my H probably is remorseful(but who am I to say? I thought he was faithful). He is doing the things he should be doing. He is trying to be the picture perfect WS but how much water is too much water under the bridge?

I've started on anxiety meds and I likely will get antidepressants when I get to see the psychiatrist. I have hooked up with an IC. I have a hard time getting through the day at work though because, in my case, the OW outed the affair over the phone at my job, and one of my coworkers decided to tell everyone. I feel like I have the plague.

I am reasonably sure that the ow is not pregnant. This was all just part of her ploy to get him to leave me. She is ugly, BTW and all I could think of as I read all her texts and emails was one, holy crap this chick is a whore and secondly, she isn't very bright.

I feel very alone in this battle. I decided to tell only those people who could be supportive and as it turns out, there is no one that fits that description. I put all my eggs in one basket...him. Thought he was my best friend.


Me -BS 39
Him-WS 38
Dday #1 February 14, 2003 EA(not a typo. He did it AGAIN eleven years later)
Dday #2 March 17, 2014 LT PA
Dday #3 June 29, 2014(found evidence something had gone on with his sister's best friend)
Dying Inside and in limbo

Posts: 124 | Registered: Mar 2014
twitching
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It really sucks that he allowed you to find out this way. And that coworker who gossipped about it to e eryone should really be put in his/her place. What a self serving jerk.


"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

Posts: 128 | Registered: Feb 2014
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First, you MUST tell the other wives. Back up the conversation with the communications that expose their husbands, as well. You didn't say how many other betrayed wives are involved but the several of you can present a united front and stick together when it comes to your WS's. What a sick situation. WTF is wrong with people ! ? ?

One thing for sure, you DO have the 'right' to tell your WH exactly what's on your mind, exactly how you feel, and you have every right to tell him to back off. If he truly does want to stay in his M, he will honor all those and will still try to find ways to prove his remorse to you. ((((DyingInside))))


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

Posts: 482 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri & Massachusetts
Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG HUGS to you, sweetie!!

OW called me at work. She claims she is pregnant

This woman has been ridden more than times than a seasoned race horse. Question: IF she is really pregnant, HOW does she know who fathered it?


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 501 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is ugly, BTW and all I could think of as I read all her texts and emails was one, holy crap this chick is a whore and secondly, she isn't very bright

This is standard qualifications for being an "other" woman: can't get a man the normal way...go steal one to feel superior. There is a sick warped mindset that makes them believe what they are doing is right and "true" and a dazed brainless mindset by the cheater that this AP is so much better than what they had at home.

Paul Newman had said about his wife Joanne Woodward when asked about cheating on her and he said "I have steak at home, why would I look for hamburger?"

You are steak. Remember that.


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 501 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
JustOneMoreDay
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To answer the question of how many wives...

2 wives that I know(wives of my H's two best friends) and, apparently, two wives that I don't know(don't know those two husbands either. H's friend #1 set him up with OW. It was his ex-girlfriend. He gave my h her address, he went to her door and she gave him a bj. That started an 18 month affair.

The whole thing makes me sick. He wants to rebuild. I can't stop thinking. About the fact that he banged the whore over and over unprotected. It's disgusting.


Me -BS 39
Him-WS 38
Dday #1 February 14, 2003 EA(not a typo. He did it AGAIN eleven years later)
Dday #2 March 17, 2014 LT PA
Dday #3 June 29, 2014(found evidence something had gone on with his sister's best friend)
Dying Inside and in limbo

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