I want to point this out...you validate him by posting that you:
* allow his texts and emails to get to you.
* how people talk about him get to you.
* you talk about looking up his profile.
You're giving him his ego kibbles.
I'm not saying don't post. I'm saying stop validating him. Give him true NC. You're not doing that. Not long ago you were looking at his phone bill. You still read his email. As soon as you realized it was him, click delete it. Don't finish it, trash it. You're allowing this to continue.
He's narcissistic, he's abusive, he's stalking. You can get a RO. You have power here. No amount of embarrassment is worth your safety.
How would you advise a client?
Mental NC is how you get through this. IC. When you think of him, change abruptly what you're doing. Join a CoDA group. http://www.coda.org/ live life. Change your habits. BS - Me
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