Why am I thinking this way? Well the only thing I can really do without just showing up at her job and beating her ass is.....reporting her to Department Of Children and Families. I know she smokes weed. Ive heard that she sells it too, but maybe thats just a rumor. I know she smokes though. Im conflicted. I would get some jollys out of doing it, but sometimes I think things work themselves out. Usually a woman realizes "hey, this man wants nothing to do with me" and backs away but not her. She is literally like the chick from the movie Obsessed. I wish I could drop her from my ceiling!! I wouldnt have even grabbed her hand to save her like beyonce did lol. I know this wont stop her. She is the type she would leave her kids home alone to come suck his thing for 5 minutes then go back home. She has no convo for him, literally all she does is try to get him to you know what. I guess thats the only tool she has. A vagina, a nasty one at that. Yeah, she sent a pic one day and he showed it to me. She also kind of reminds me of jodi arias lol. She seems real shy, but crazy. Oh lord.
Well, what do you guys think? I was literally in the middle of doing it when I got confused. Suggestions?!
Together 7 years
DDay: June 24, 2013
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
She isn't the problem. Your WH is. She can lay naked in front of him, he can walk away. If your WH is a musician who has women throwing themselves at him all the time, then this woman is just one of many. What she says doesn't matter. HE is the one in control of himself.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
What happens if the authorities decide you made a frivolous claim to get back at her? What does that legally mean for you?
Even if they did do something to her, it's unlikely to change her constant contact with you husband.
Don't get yourself otherwise involved with legal shit with her. If you know she's neglected her kids for fact that's one thing- but don't make a claim on a guess, driven by anger from another situation.
You need something that changes her access to him. Your husband should file for a restraining order. Use the laws available to you in the right way.
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
@Sistermilkshake: He actually sent the picture out...He stated that he wanted to post it to social media and ask "does anybody know who I belong too" but was worried hed get in trouble for posting it since he has underage teens on his networks.
This is the true definition of a crazy groupie
[This message edited by DTERMINED2SURVIV at 8:33 AM, March 21st (Friday)]
If she is psycho and gets off on the conflict, the LAST thing I would do, is throw my hat in the arena.
I'd start keeping a paper trail in case she escalates in the future...which would include a conversation with a lawyer and the police. Let a lawyer inform her that further contact will be considered harassment.
I would also ask mutual acquaintances to stop sharing info between all of you. That isn't helping. Ask them not to info share with her, and to refuse to provide her with anything other than an "I don't know".
FWH needs to go crickets...no more explaining anything.
The ONLY communication she should get is from an attorney or the police. Other than that, I think it's a mistake for either of you to entertain her provocations. Let a 3rd party professional handle it.
Post it ALL over social media. Get everyone to see it. Even if they don't know the whore.
Idk if this is a great idea, but seeing he outed what he has done to his fans and all, I don't see how showing he is committed could hurt. And on the plus side, I don't think anymore woman would dare to send nude pics and stuff for fear of social media... not sure how this would end, but it sure is an awesome fantasy!
I understand your concerns but look at how immature she is! I mean come on! She doesn't know him from boo and she is sending him naked pics?
She is a groupie nothing more!
For instance....if she smokes a joint outside after they go to bed...meh, gray area. If she's getting high in the house, with her children present, report.
What concerns me is that you said she would leave her kids alone to come see your husband. Depending on their ages this is HIGHLY dangerous. There are news stories all the time about young children getting hurt or dying when their parents left them alone.
Don't drag her kids down just for revenge. They've innocent and foster care can be rough. However, if they're truly in danger, then you have a moral obligation to report.
One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz
I certainly dont act or feel like this about every woman that writes him but its sad im willing to stoop that low. I guess at a point being the "bigger person" feels like being a smaller person. That blows! I dont think I should involve her kids.
Ill TRY to let it go for now and let KARMA be the bitch!