finding a good mc can be hard. after credentials, it can come down to one that you both are comfortable wtih. there's nothing wrong with meeting with several until you find a fit.
for us, the MC had to "fit" with us. luckily, the first one we went to did.
on our first visit, we let him know what we were comfortable with (mr unfound is not a big reader, I'm a lay in on the line no bullshitting gal... we didn't like the idea of role playing or homework etc..). he respected that and conducted our sessions as such.
he never gave us a "six months and you should be at xyz point", but acknowledged that it would take as long as it would take, as long as both of us were participating and honest.
he had a great sense of humor. something we both appreciated and another "fit". during our second visit he asked me "I have to ask if you're feeling suicidal... I don't have to ask if you're feeling homicidal, that's kinda obvious"
he was willing to share information and have information shared by mr unfounds IC. big help.
he called us both on our shit early on.
he was professionally empathetic. he had been a bs, but could relate to mr unfound really well.
he didn't offer solutions, but led us to them. he'd give advice and ideas and tools, but it was up to us to use them.
it can be so hard to find a good mc, between insurance, costs, location....then toss in the specificity of dealing with infidelity and R...
living in the present and letting go of past problems..
I'd be curious as to how they define and implement these techniques. do they mean move forward from where you are, or resolving the past (letting go?) and being able to be appreciative of the work you'll be doing in the present.. hmmmmm?