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User Topic: No, this is not funny!
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Found this posted on another site as "funny." Seriously? Some people have no idea.

May be overreacting, but this hit a nerve.

http://i.imgur.com/VXjCUE3.jpg


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Want To Wake Up
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To be honest, Pre DDay I would have thought it was funny, poor taste but funny... Post DDay... it makes me sick.

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longnightmare
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've seen things like this, one in particular that I saw on OWs FB page that was two men laughing, one said "I told my side piece I was leaving my wife. You should have seen the look on her face!" These kinds of jokes might've been funny before Dday, I agree with wanttowakeup, but now they are huge triggers and make me angry all over again!

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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, not all that funny.


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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's funny until it happens to them. Moral code, integrity, sadly it is lacking in our society today. Everything is fun and funny. To each their own, let them live their own life....yada yada yada....all just passive ways people don't have to be accountable.


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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I must have the same nerve damage as you do because I didn't find it funny either.

There is a line in a Nelly song that's says something like "I'm just kidding-unless you're gonna do it". Hubby and I use to roar with laughter over it. It's not funny anymore. What made it funny was that it was so ridiculous. He did do it, it's not ridiculous anymore, so it's not funny anymore. At least not from him.


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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At the risk of making people angry, I got a little chuckle at it. It's not that funny but I chuckled. It's really a simple non sequitur. It's not funny because it's about cheating, it's funny because of the misdirection of the first and second halves of the note.


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I wonder what would happen to the world

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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wodnships - No worries here if it made you chuckle. Humor is a personal thing. Someone could argue with title of my post.

I personally don't find anything to do with infidelity funny, but like others have said here, before I knew the sting, I may have chuckled at this myself. I guess what set me off is this prevalence of an "infidelity isn't a big deal" attitude that I notice so much now in general terms (obviously not on this site). Hell, I say "prevalence," but it may not even be all that prevalent, just rather things I may have given no thought to before I now notice, and they set me off.

I have no idea if that last part made sense, so I'll try another analogy. When we lost our son, it was a very, very difficult time as I'm sure I don't need to say. In the months afterwards, it seemed like everyone was pregnant or had a baby. Obviously that was not the case, but we were so hypersensitive to the topic that, again, we seemingly couldn't escape baby talk and couples with small kids where, before, we did't think about it nearly as much. There were even TV shows and such we had to stop watching because of pregnancy and/or baby subplots (I remember "Bones" being a favorite that suddenly became un-watchable).

Anyway, sorry to ramble, but point of reference is a big part of what people find funny, and I still do not find this funny at all. It's not on me to tell others how if should effect them (though I guess that's kind of what I'm doing ).


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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get what you are saying.

For me I tend to compartmentalize humor a bit. Other then with observational comedy jokes are rarely funny because of what they are about. So, to me this is a joke about infidelity as much as it is a non sequitur. A style of humor I'm found of.

Mitch Hedberg (the master of the non sequitur) has a signature joke. It's "I used to do drug." (pause) "I still do, but I used to to." structurally these are the same joke. If I'm going to laugh at a joke about drug addiction I feel like I had better allow myself to laugh at a joke about something that's effected my life.

If you can't laugh at yourself you have no business laughing at someone else.


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If a man took his time on earth
to prove be for he died
what on man's life could be worth
I wonder what would happen to the world

- Harry Chapin


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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, March 19th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a huge Mitch Hedberg fan, and I know what you mean about the non-sequitur style. It's a shame that, ironically, it appears drugs took him from us too soon.

Heh, I remember being a fan of this Mitch Hedberg joke, but not so much now -

"I don't have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who'd be mad at me for saying that."

All that said, I get what you are saying too


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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, it's not funny. It's offensive. Not just bc it might offend someone who has experienced infidelity, but bc of the impression it gives to someone that has not. That it is somehow cute or funny.

It is not cute or funny. It results in broken hearts and broken homes. Sometimes it even results in suicide or homicide.

It is NOT funny and I think it's dangerous to give people who don't know any better the impression that it is.


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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Soul - not to thread jack, but I love Hedberg. I think of him every time I get on an escalator.

As for the humor? My doc and I were talking about this last night. I used to listen to XM radio comedy all the time on my commutes to pass the time. Now, I rarely bother because it's a trigger minefield.


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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess why this upsets me now and why it probably wouldn't have so much before was my ignorance of how devastating infidelity is.

I laugh at inappropriate jokes all the time. Inappropriate jokes are my favorite. For example-I laugh at murder jokes. Nobody I've been close to has been murdered. If they had, I probably wouldn't laugh at them anymore either.


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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is a line in a Nelly song that's says something like "I'm just kidding-unless you're gonna do it". Hubby and I use to roar with laughter over it. It's not funny anymore. What made it funny was that it was so ridiculous. He did do it, it's not ridiculous anymore, so it's not funny anymore. At least not from him.

This is exactly how I feel. WH's EA started because he jokingly asked OW for a naughty picture, and she did it. He was constantly throwing things out there as a joke or that he didn't think it would happen but guess what, after the first couple times you can't tell me you didn't know what she would do.


eta: I do realize their "friendship" had to be inappropriate well before the picture was sent for him to even joke about it...

[This message edited by AML04 at 10:03 AM, March 20th (Thursday)]


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