What is his deal? Is he trying to hurt me more by showing me our marriage was so easy for him to get over?
[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:06 PM, March 19th (Wednesday)]
My point is. His history has been not facing his reality. So I'm not surprised.
I'm so sorry because it must hurt terribly.
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
A common theme here is all we can do is heal ourselves. There is NOTHING we can do to manipulate or justify our WS.
I'm thinking he's more than a total dick weed for abandoning his children.
Heal you, heal them, f*&k him!
Lawyer up, go to IC, read the healing library and get ready for the rest of the journey.
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your mind
You on the other hand loved your husband so you still have feelings and it takes time to let go of those feelings. At the end of the day there is nothing you can do to understand why he did what he did or how he can do what he is doing. You can only focus on you because it's the only thing you can control. With time things do get better. All of us are making it and so will you. Just keep focusing on you. Trying to figure him out just takes you further and further down the rabbit hole.
You have to block him out as much as possible and focus on you. His show of happiness has no real authenticity because he has no authenticity. You hurt know because you do. It sucks, but it also makes you far happier and better off in the long run.