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User Topic: Cell call at 3:19 AM
twisted
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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Something really stinking here!
Don't blow your chance to get real evidence.


"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

Posts: 893 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Oklahoma
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is what piss@s me off. The frecken distrust, suspicion, anxiety, anger, hurt, sadness, joy-sucking bs that WS puts the BS through.

It seems like it never ends.

And you will probably never know, and even if it was innocent, there will always be that doubt.

All part of shit sandwich.

[This message edited by shiloe at 12:54 PM, March 18th (Tuesday)]


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BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So at 9:45 he was watching the voice and then went out drinking afterwards?

Do you have any agreements regarding his alcohol consumption at trade shows, where OW is present, without your presence?

I'm more inclined to see him fiddly farting around with the phone in a drunken state. Phantom phone dialing sounds like a stretch. He doesn't remember you calling, but how does he account for the time between 9:45 and 3:19?


BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one


Posts: 2372 | Registered: Jan 2010
hopefulmother
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you ask someone he was with at the show?


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
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Posts: 933 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: PA
Swims
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Refuz, he had alcohol in the room... there is a bar downstairs also. I don't know what happened between 9:45 and 3:19. I talked with him at 8:30 he sounded ok. And if he truly doesn't remember, I'll never know why he picked up the phone, entered the pass code and dialed me. He had to do it. Unless he was drunken texting OW and checking for response? Or looking at the phone to erase things? That's why I'm demanding the phone records. If he was contacting her it will show up.

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Swims
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Edit: double post. Not very good at this yet

[This message edited by Swims at 1:15 PM, March 18th (Tuesday)]


Posts: 127 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast
cissi
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Swims, I'm not sure if my friend's client could actually hear anything but he knew it was her, probably from her number being saved in his phone.

Posts: 1411 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southern California
1000eyes
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My old iPhone would sometimes randomly dial people even when it was locked and sitting on the table. The apple store I went to even had a name for it "ghost phone"
It was a problem with the home button, mine got so bad I had to replace it. Not sure if that is what happened I'm just saying its possible.


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Posts: 14 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: The frozen north
refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only story of phantom dialing I have known, is my former friend who was the MOW. She thought I may have seen the blank text messages sent to my FWH's phone. For the purpose of preemptive damage control, one morning at work, she told me how she needed to get a new phone, because hers was sending random messages and calls to people. I thought nothing of it days later, when I discovered the blank messages on my H's phone. She was after all the victim of technology malfunction.....

Our family has since had 18 iPhones spanning all generations, and never, has a phone made calls without human intervention of some kind...pockets or mishandling. In fact none of our phones regardless of the brand, dating back to the ancient Motorolas, have ever randomly dialed someone without human intervention.

He was farting around with his phone. Innocent or not.

I hope you get answers, and I hope this is not the worst case scenario.

At any rate, he should be putting your comfort first when away on business without you. Because when it comes down to it, the random call isn't the real issue is it? It's more than that.

Is drinking a problem for him?

You deserve some freaking peace.

[This message edited by refuz2bavictim at 3:39 PM, March 18th (Tuesday)]


BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one


Posts: 2372 | Registered: Jan 2010
twisted
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a thought, I normally wear a bluetooth headset(Plantronics Voyager) all day. It allows both my hands to be free and as a one man operation in the office,I'm constantly on the phone.
If I take it off my ear and put in my front pocket, I've had it call a random number from my contact list, or the last number I dialed. If you double click one of the buttons on it it does this. It doesn't take much to do this, just bumping it or say, dealing cards, dancing... etc. would be more than enough.
Does he use a bluetooth?

[This message edited by twisted at 3:41 PM, March 18th (Tuesday)]


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Posts: 893 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Oklahoma
redrock
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, he said he had too much to drink and doesn't remember me calling him back. Big problem right there!!

Yes. If he is at a business function where his former AP will also be located there is no reason for him to be drinking in the room or out.

His attitude and behavior IMO are as worrisome as the call. I will be interested to see if the 'no problem' phone record sitch turns into a 'problem' when time comes for him to turn the records over to you.

He is at a trade show. I attend a couple of conferences a year with my boss and lets just say that the people who want to be idiots and drink do. Some times other people are picking up the bill and for some reason that seems to bring out the frat boy/party girl in some normally professional people.

However, that is a choice. No matter what the circumstances were he chose that. Nothing good IMO happens after midnight. So the call is a red flag. His drinking is a red flag and his efforts to play it off are yet another red flag.

If you never get the detail, there is one thing that you do know. He isn't partner enough to do the right thing in a situation that has you on edge and concerned.

I don't think you are going to get more out of him. Wait and see what the phone records tell you, or his lack of getting them tell you.

I am sorry you had to go through that. You deserve the truth. I hope that he steps up and does his best to help give it to you.


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MoonLitSmile
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Do you have access to the phone records??? If not, you should. You should be able to check at anytime you like. If he has a problem with you looking at those records, then you have your answer, loud and clear....

(((Swims)))


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Her- 43, a self-centered bitch concerned with no one but herself

DDay- July 13, 2013

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Posts: 720 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Southeastern PA
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In not an iPhone person, but apparently, this ghost phone phenomenon isn't unheard of.

https://community.verizonwireless.com/message/1050945

Doesn't mean that this is what happened...


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Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3539 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Swims
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all of your support. redrock, your post really was spot on. Waiting for the phone records now......

Posts: 127 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast
SeekingPeace84
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Swims, I think the only way you'll know is to look at the phone records. You can do that right away. If you don't already have an online account with your service provider, go to their website and sign up for an online account. You can have immediate access to detailed phone records. You don't need to wait for him to provide them to you.

I'm really sorry this is happening. Big hugs to you!!

~Charity


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Him: WH (3 month OEA)
Known each other all our lives, Together 5.5 yrs, Married 4 yrs.
D-day: 3/8/14
Separated 3/8/14 and currently seeking IC

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