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spond
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree gather EVERYTHING before any confrontation. Also.. no matter how it turns out after confrontation... do NOT get rid of any evidence at this time.

I would strongly urge you to attempt to contact the OBS(if there is one).

Have him build a time line as well. That might help make sure his words line up with the evidence (or not).

You could always confront him with the book...
Guess what honey I got you a gift. I can't wait until you see it.
Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass or After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis A. Spring.

Also... try to not make any relationship decisions right now. You will be on an emotional rollercoaster and it's best to save the hard decisions to when you can think clear.


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

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augustmarie
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Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do I need the printed proof? To prove it to him that he had an affair? I guess I'm just new at this, but I saw it and it might be gone next time I look. I was going to confront tomorrow night. I guess the first step is they try to prove you are overreacting and that your misread something,

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augustmarie
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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the chick is gone. They break things off a month before coming home so stds can be treated and so they can put their heads back into being home with their wives

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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The confrontation should be Sunday evening

Hi augustmarie, I gather your H is back and I just wanted to check in to see how you are holding up. I hope all is going as well as could possibly be expected. Stay strong and take care of yourself. We're here if you need us.


If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you always got

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augustmarie
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is back. I agonized all weekend on how to confront him. I simply said, I know you were with someone on deployment, I am hurt and I am confused. Then he took a pause and said, I am sorry, I made a mistake and I don't want to lose you.

So no added dramas, just seems he was relieved and ready to prove he can be everything I want him to be for our future together. He has always been levelheaded and I wasn't surprised it seemed like he said the right things,

I love him and so it's easy to want to forgive him. It just seems too easy. I've given him a list of my deal breakers and he agreed to all of them and even has inquired about couples retreats on his own. I am going to do IC to get my head straight and then ask him to go.

Feel like I'm missing something but I did cave in to having totally amazing sex. Ugh. Such a wierd mix of emotions going on.


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augustmarie
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh and he put our entire marital savings in my account.,, said it's for me to hold on to in order for me to feel he is serious about our future together...

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