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User Topic: Opinions please - SO gift giving
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You weren't over-reacting. That was a miserly move on his part, and it shows that he thinks it's okay to treat you like that.

Not good.

I have kicked men to the curb for behavior that wasn't as bad as this (thank God). It left my life open to a man that does everything in his power to make my life easier.

Inconsiderate, to say the least. But in my opinion, he thinks he's got you.....and he thinks it's okay to quit trying at this point. It will likely get worse.

FTG.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 2:01 AM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe you have different languages of love.

For the first 2 years my ex spoiled me rotten, then it all stopped. My ex was a douche and then never celebrated anything, except his own birthdays etc, and was extremely pissed off if the world didn't stop for his celebrations but did nothing for mine and he thought that was perfectly acceptable.

I'm not a materialistic person but there was no thought at all about me, didn't make me feel special or cherished. Should have seen it as a major red flag (first of many) It's not something I would put up with again.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1361 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is this the same guy you posted about before? That was cheating on you last summer??

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=499685&HL=5526


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Almost 2 yrs with him. I can throw him under the bus or defend him. I'll go with defend cause he has many tire tracks. lol

My SO didn't show "exactly" what I wanted on VD and my birthday. She is short on funds and had bigger issues at that time.

3 weeks later, she has put together a long trip for us to be alone. Has shown a lot of effort and care for us to do things together.

I also looked over my SI/NB/Religion "log book". Last yr my SO did so much for me I actually felt bad. She gave me the care, consideration, and love I'd never gotten from xww.

I'm not say'n what he did was right or what I'd do.(the taking back money is a new one) But keep his actions in mind, maybe watch/listen a lil closer.

Just another POV. Wish you the best.


Posts: 123 | Registered: Aug 2012
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any chance he felt bad that the tv didn't work out so he took the money planning to put it towards something else?

In any case, this is something you guys should discuss. You are feeling upset and undervalued. If you don't plan to break up, those feelings are only going to grow without an honest discussion.


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Abby
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really appreciate everyone's feedback. I am still too upset to talk with him about it at this point.

No, I am certain he doesn't have any plans to do something for me with the money he took back.

He does do a lot of things for me and it's his way to express his love. However, we've always exchanged gifts and the way things went this time has me feeling badly about myself, him and us as a couple.


Posts: 582 | Registered: Oct 2004
cissi
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, March 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is this the same guy you posted about before? That was cheating on you last summer??

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=499685&HL=5526

I am re-posting this, in case you didn't see it.


Posts: 1431 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Southern California
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, March 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We've been together almost 2 years now.

Is this the same guy you posted about before? That was cheating on you last summer??
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=499685&HL=5526

If they've been seeing each other for 2 years as Abby stated earlier, then it's bound to be the same guy.

(((Abby)))

Please ask yourself why you'd put up with such treatment. Are you in IC?


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