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User Topic: Just learned after 10 years about what my wife did.
5454real
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stu, your lawyer *may* need to know the biological paternity. Ask him/her. If CSTBXWW decides to fight you on the custodial front it may become an issue. My greatest hope is that she would not choose to fight, but the $$$ from CS may be too attractive to her.

Strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2571 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
OK now
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be careful to avoid seeing blood types as well as DNA results. For instance if both you and your wife were O + and either of the kids were any other blood type. then you could not be the bio dad. Same conclusion if both you and your wife were R- and one of the kids was R+

So avoid documents that may list blood information.
I agree, after what you have endured, parentage is not the issue you need to deal with at this time. As I said before, if your wife thinks she may lose custody she will insist the DNA test is carried out. You might be preemptive and bargain with your WW. You have custody but she sees the kids at least 50% of the time - anything to stop her testing. That would be ideal; keep her happy with the child arrangements but doesn't have custody.


Posts: 1692 | Registered: May 2007 | From: NC
confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stu, forgive me, but this has been a very long thread and I guess I've forgotten. But..how do you know Adonis's wife knows? Have you spoken to her?

ETA: I skimmed through and found a post where you said your exBF told you Adonis's wife knows.

Um..STU!!! He is a liar. Nothing he says can be taken as the truth.

He told you they are separated, but still living together....Stu...that is one of the oldest wayward lines there is...

Tell his wife.

This Adonis could very well become a part of your children's lives. He can come and go as he pleases..because his wife thinks he's at work or whatever. He's managed to do it for the ;last 10 years..only now she won't have you around..so he will be around more..and around your kids. He sounds like a sick POS..not anyone I would want around my children..or anyone else's.

[This message edited by confused615 at 10:09 AM, April 6th (Sunday)]


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7152 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
cliffside
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing to keep in mind, your wife may not want custody of the kids. My H's OW let her husband have custody because, duh, she wanted to have her own place where she could f*ck whomever she wanted and not have the responsibility of being a parent. The fact that she so readily walked out, let the kids stay with you, and is actively screwing two men says parenting is not exactly on the top of her priorities right now...

Stay strong. Focus on you and your kids


Me: BS 39
Him: WH 41
2 Kids
D-Day: 2/3/13
Broke NC 3/14
Very skeptically in R for now...

Posts: 261 | Registered: Mar 2013
evephoebe1
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stu, your children are so blessed to have you. Hang in there. (((hugs)))


Me: Survivor! BS (47)
Him: WH (45)
2 awesome kids, 13 & 16

Posts: 92 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: evephoebe1
5454real
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stu, just checking on you brother. Hope you and the kids are doing okay.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2571 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
trojan007
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Default  Posted: 3:18 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dude I hope you're doing alright. Please update us so we know that you're okay. I'll be waiting your from you buddy

Posts: 56 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Valencia, CA 91355
confused615
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Default  Posted: 5:24 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stu..you are missed. I hope you're doing ok.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7152 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stu,

Hope that you are doing OK.


BH-46
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 1998 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
sakitten
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, May 8th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still wondering what happened to you, Stu. Hope all is well!

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