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User Topic: Handing a sick kid to Stbx (pep talk needed)
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, March 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are scheduled for parenting time tomorrow. Although NPDSTBX doesn't seem to see the "parenting" part. Scheduling tomorrow was a challenge. His last email was full of accusations and craziness.

He is upset that DD (toddler) will be napping while he has her. It will be cutting into his time.

Anyway, I noticed DD was warm this evening and took her temp. She had a low low fever. 99.9. I wouldn't even think twice except I am handing her to STBX tomorrow.

He is going to be pissed that she is sick. He is going to find a way to blame me.

I am not cancelling. This is PARENTING time. Parent your child, STBX.

I am also writing off Monday to repair the damage he does.

I just need some hair pats. And a little advice for handing over a sick kid to a already cranky STBX.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 497 | Registered: Nov 2013
kg201
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let him know ahead of time. That way you can gauge his reaction before you see him in person.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 724 | Registered: Aug 2013
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, March 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hand her over, along with info as to what meds you've given her, if any, and when she needs her next dose. Let him know when her naptime should be and shut the door.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9823 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You will be fine. I know it's hard because you are clearly more tuned in to your kiddo's needs. But it's a low grade fever and you know she will be coming back to you.

Yes, write off Monday. Maybe Tuesday and Wednesday as well. Stay strong and consistent with DD and she will be fine. Is she coming back tonight or Monday?

I remember that ex-shat didn't want to take Teslet to the dentist. His text: 'why do I gotta do that on my time?'

So, remember going forward with the D and parenting time that you never give him the benefit of the doubt that he might start parenting. Not until you see solid actions that he is actually a selfless parent and not a selfish bastard.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She came back tonight.

And how epic it was.

Like, you can't make this shit up.

He brought her back at 10pm after agreeing to 630pm.

Got a "I will be late" text at 6:30... then nada... for hours. I text him, no reply.

On a hunch, I drove by OW's (well, her parent's and STBX's current home) and his car was there. So, I knocked looking for my kid (I had my speaker phone on and my folks on the line). I had called the cops but they won't enforce anything (no court orders, yet). And I asked for an escort but I had already waited for a while.

Her dad answers (invites me in uh, no) and tells me they both took HER car down to his parents.

Big night, introducing the girlfriend to the parents

So, he isn't there, call around, and finally texts me he is on his way home from an hour away. To arrive at 10pm with my sicky toddler.

Got her down to sleep after a major meltdown and super clingy-ness.

Fucking Asshole. This is his revenge. NPD bullshit.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 497 | Registered: Nov 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((littlefoggy & dd))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so glad I had the hour after him texting to cry and scream and compose myself and put makeup on and then pick her up.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 497 | Registered: Nov 2013
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, March 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just glad your baby girl is back home with her Mommy to be coddled and fussed over until she is feeling better.
Drink some relaxing tea. I'm so sorry you had to go through that whole ordeal!
(((littlefoggy & DD)))


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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