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User Topic: Theodore Roosevelt on risk and choosing to live...
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena: whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood ; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes up short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

Here is to those willing to stay in the arena....dirty, bloody and tired....and fight for something worth fighting for.

It is tempting to leave the arena....especially when your closest ally made such a choice sometime in your M.....but you fight your way along the narrow path and attempt to do what many who choose the wide path are unwilling to do, all the while knowing there is no guarantee of a victory.

May we all continue to find the courage to keep our souls alive and vivid.

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:35 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, February 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At the end of each of our day....we alone decide if we are to remain in our arena.

At the end of our life we will answer for our choices.

SI is wonderful, as are the many books I have read, my pastor, therapist, good friends......but at the core of this battle it is just me......just you in the arena . We have to make the final choices that we will experience consequences over.

I have things to work on, brokenness to mend, hurts to pay restitution for.

I get tired and want to leave the arena.....but that chilling of my soul and retreating from life motivates me to stand up again in the arena.

How much can I take? No idea.....I have passed every benchmark I can conceive of....and I am still here.

God help us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:44 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's important to remember that staying the arena is different from staying in the M. I'm pretty obviously biased toward R, but R takes 2.

If one partner is unwilling to R or is not a candidate for R, getting out of the M is the way to get back into the arena of life.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9773 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teddy was a total badass.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2241 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this quotation - Brene Brown uses it a lot.


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1768 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, February 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I use this on the Lifetime Achievement Award we give out every year. I love that quote.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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