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User Topic: N P D Thread - Part 13
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nekorb,

I'm sending you some duct tape with minions (despicable me movie) on it, if you prefer I have zebra striped duct (zebra duck?) tape also.

Because, sweetie, you're gonna need it.

Keep your expectations really really LOW. And (unfortunately) you won't be disappointed!

I'm the type of person who prepares for the worst and prays for the best. With XH I would ask myself, " what's the worst thing that could happen?" I learned 9 times out of the 10 that I made that statement, he did my worst case scenario! After awhile I got so I was prepping the kids, "XH said he'd pick you up from band competition, soccer game, etc, if he's not in the pickup line call him, after you call him, call me!" That way when she called me I asked does XH have you? Did you speak with him? Do you need a ride?

My kids know I always have their back, they know they can't say that about XH.

A side note, I use XH's given name to my kids ONCE they are 18. It puts a level of separation between XH and the kid. "Your father or dad"- shows kids 'ownership' of the relationship with sperm donor.

It sucks..having to do this stuff! But my kids mental health is too important to me to be worried about XH. I can guarantee that XH isn't worried about it.

Hugs,
K

[This message edited by Kajem at 9:18 PM, May 4th (Sunday)]


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Kajem's. How about the zebra stripes? Sounds a title more my style.


I DO need to adjust my expectations. My counselor says repeatedly, "Nekorb, why do these things continue to surprise you? You are no longer dealing with a rational person.".

It's just so...weird...to suddenly not be able to depend on the person that you have depended on for 25 years...for him not to have my back, but instead be inserting the knife into it and giving it a good twist whenever he sees fit.

I know I've said it before, probably too many times already, but I continue to have my flabber ghasted. by his greed. I just don't get it. I probably never will.

Thanks for the tape, Kajem. Maybe now I can sleep.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, May 4th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gladly handing over the zebra duct tape to Nekorb. I'll use the minions to tape my eyelids closed!!! Not much sleep happening here either.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This article was posted down in S/D, but it is so perfect for us, I wanted to be sure no one misses it.

The article is about divorcing a high-conflict person (aka NPD), but there are many take aways for all of us.

The below quote is true at all times. Never give them anything. Nada. Zilch. Nothin'.


Expressing one's true feelings, admitting vulnerability, and apologizing for one's missteps can bury a person who is trying to dissolve a marriage with a narcissist -- especially when children are involved.

Please read the full article.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/virginia-gilbert-mft/what-therapists-dont-tell_b_2622776.html


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought this was a great article too.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for that article. I wish my father had that years ago.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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Quakingaspen
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks K. I'm giving my priest a little leeway because he's young, and I think has no idea what he's in for with Prestone. It was our first meeting about this situation, and he was trying very hard to be helpful. It is just icing on the crap cake of the whole situation that I now have this image of my priest labeling me a depraved sex craver every time I see him. If he does, that's his problem. I know the truth. Plus, I am outta here ASAP.

jj - The meeting Saturday was AWESOME. In the way that any tiny, needy expectations of dealing with a real human were totally, consistently blown. (Speaking of keeping expectations low. ) He came out of the gate complaining about the kids not bowing to his fatherly expertise, and it didn't get better from there. The worst part was that I needed him to help me get some paperwork done as soon as possible, and it took the entire time of bringing it back up to get him to commit. But he did. Haha. The worst part was when I told him that he is still not respecting anyone's boundaries and he made a big deal about realizing how he's been ignoring anything but his fears and how he's going to back off. Then asked if he could come over for a few hours on Sunday to hang out. Oh sure, and since you asked so nicely, why don't you move back in? ?!?!?!

AND, he was going to try to get in the way of the move. It was almost like I had scripted it, word for word. But, I was prepared, and pretty much gave him the forced choice that he can do this for the kids or think of himself and stop us from moving. The sad thing is that the kids have been doing more research about this move than I have and are actually super excited about their new schools. I'm bracing for more on that since he was feeling me up about it, but I think I shot down the initial sally pretty hard.

I finished my coffee and left after an hour, despite his many hints about what he was going to do the rest of the day, and trying to drag me into more conversation. I was pretty proud. I walked away and didn't even cry. Back to NC.

wb2 - I also really appreciate that article, thank you for sharing it here.

ETA - Trouble sleeping here too. I'm having sleep panic attacks. I wake up in a panic, smelling smoke, and can't even lie down until I've checked the whole house over twice, sniffing and touching surfaces. I'm having nightmares that I find an amazing house somewhere, and Prestone moves in next door and scoots his house closer and closer to mine until they're the same house. Might have to go back to the sleeping pills.

[This message edited by Quakingaspen at 4:46 PM, May 5th (Monday)]


I've seen enough.

WS-SA/NPD
D-Day: Too many in 17 years of marriage. LAST time 10/17/2013.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is one helluva nightmare!!!!

Great article Wb2.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((QA)))

I'm sorry about the nightmares. I have them too. I wake up disoriented and not knowing where I am. I hope they get better for both (all) of us.


Today I set two boundaries on major purchases that WH assumed were going to come from joint funds. One he denies he expected that, and the other he full on made that assumption and even placed a down payment on his purchase (for his new place).

I set both of these boundaries by email and am now dreading his return from work. I hate living in fear in my own home.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nekorb,

Sending you strength and peace.

I wonder how he'd look with a zebra duct bill? It certainly would cut down his chatting!

A girl can dream!!!!

It's better than the nightmares!
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol Kajem!

Here's an interesting article about something called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome


http://narcissisticbehavior.net/narcissistic-victim-syndrome-what-the-heck-is-that/


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG nekorb!! Thank you for sharing that. It was like in some way it was written about me. I've spent so much time and effort looking into my mother's side of the equation I didn't even realize some of those things about myself. Thank you.

Do you guys mind if I share and vent something here with ya'll this morning?

Some of you know my story or just a bit of it. I'm planning on having a meeting with my mother at the end of this month basically letting her know that she can either follow my boundaries and consequences or I will cut her out of my life forever which I'm fully prepared to do at this point. The reason I'm doing it is that I will have regret going to my grave if no one confronts her in my lifetime and also to get out what I need to get out. I know it will fall on deaf ears, but this is something I am doing for myself.

Well, she's been trying to force my hand and we had a phone confrontation two weeks ago. I have not spoken to her since but I felt empowered after that call as I gave her no where to go with trying to put the blame on me. She threatened that she would never speak to me again and I called her on it saying I was fully ready to walk away. She backed right down. I mentioned that I need to talk to her about our family history, my brother's suicide, her past A(s), her rewriting our family history, etc...

When I got home from work yesterday I received this hand written letter (she does not know how to use a computer). She focused right in on the one thing that she thinks she can control talking about her A. No where in this letter does she mention any of the other mental abuse, my brother's suicide, etc. I had also asked her to have someone present for her and to book an IC appt for after the meeting. Personally I think she doesn't want me there because I'm going to expose her. All I'm going to do is hold up a mirror with no attitude or malice behind it. Just what I saw as a child growing up in her house.

Sorry if this is really long...

4-30-14

yop

You really scared me and I don't understand what I said or did to make you so angry?

If this has been going on for awhile, why did did you wait this long to say any thing

I'm truly sorry. I know this isn't enough, so come and scream at me. I will take it.

I've kept AP in my head, because I have no boyfriend or husband to talk to. I never thought I would end up with no one.

(Your Father) has always will be the love of my life, but it always hurts (underline hurts) to think about him. It took me more than 10 years to be able to cope with our divorce. He was not an easy person to live with. He was always such an alone man. Deep in his thoughts without including me. (I was very alone with him). He was always working + working + working!!! (his company) drove us apart.

Then in the late 80s I got very (2 underlines under very) sick with a kidney infection.

I couldn't eat anything for 9mo. because of the medicine they had put me on - Keflex (never take it) - It destroyed me inside. It killed too much.

I have colitus (once you have it - you have it for life). It used to be foods that triggered it, now it's stress.

Colitus is like an ulser of your colon.

Being I was so sick it pushed my depression up to the surface. BIG TIME!!!

I went to two doctors and they said it was P.M.S. -WRONG-

So, I was difficult to live with and he was, too.

All my friends kept trying to tell me gently that there has to be someone else at work. No one works that many hours.

(your father) used to talk about (his AP that he ended up marrying) and her problems! All these problems become his problems. I'll never (underline never) believe that he wasn't with (his AP) before we got divorced. I found them in their apartment.

I never thought in a million years that I (underline I) would have an affair.

I loved (your father) more than life, but at the end of the 80s he was there!

He wasn't with me physically or emotionally. He had moved into the spare bedroom. That should have been my "red flag" that things are really bad between us, but I still didn't see it. I was so stupid because I was still defending him to my friends.

I wasn't mentally ready to face a divorce anyway. That is when I decided to just go an live my own life. (your father) was certainly living his own life.

So when I met AP, I was at a the lowest part of my life. (your father) couldn't talk to me, he was gone from me mentally - he was just gone.

AP and I were going thru the same things, at the same time with his wife.

We met at a party and talked for hours about everything. I wasn't thinking about an affair. We were just having fun drinking and swimming with lots of friends. It was a happy time. (your father) was not fun at these parties he was so serious.

So I was so lonesome and someone was paying attention to me, that one thing led to another. We didn't set out to do this, but it happened.

He had kids and I had kids, we knew it was going to end.

I'm sorry but I fell in love with him. It wasn't to hurt you or anyone else, but it did. He died in 2004.

So, I have kept his memory in my head for a very long time because it was a good memory.

Since 2008 I have had few happy times here at XXXXX Park. It taken 5 years to adjust to this place.

I probably said something stupid to you about AP that I didn't mean. AP wanted me (your father) didn't.

I'm seeing my therapist today and I am off my job (with pay) because I am so upset with this situation. There has been too many things that have happened in too short of time.

(my company) is very concerned with me, that they are giving me time off to help me.

XXXXX Park has been cruel the way they told me I have to get out of my apartment. I gave them my 2013 tax (they bought this place in Dec 2013) form the other day. They had my 2012 because I hadn't had my taxes done until the end of March. I was over the $26,000 (I'm allowed to make) but my 2013 taxes show me I am under by $2500.

I don't know what you want me to do for this situation.

(her psychiatrist) told me another therapist would never tell you to do this. This isn't anyway to solve this.

If you want me to come to (yop's city) and we both go to your therapist I'll do it. I can stay in a motel so the kids don't know.

I really feel this is more than just something I said. I care about you.

I think by coming here is just going to rip us apart. You really want to be this cruel with me.

I have gone thru so much loss -
(your father)
(my closest friends who would let me F AP at their house)
My son
My sister
My parents
4 girlfriends - cancer
my home (underline home) and everything (underline everything) in it.

Can't I just have a little happiness in my head. I've never meant to hurt you.

So now I've lost all of you??

-Life SUCKS-

This was never done on purpose.

I don't know what else to do.

Please do not send me a mother's day card - (your father) did that on Valentines's Day and left 2 weeks later -Don't lie-

I'm off all next week, seeing my psychiatrist and my therapist before I can go back to work. At least (my company) loves me. How many businesses would do this for their employees.

So the ball is in your court - Not knowing for a month does a number on my head and colitus.

There is still so much you don't know about our marriage that I will never go into with you.

Love,
Mom or
maybe not.

Very sorry for the long post guys. What do you think?

ETA - I already know my father was/is a madhatter. The last year of their marriage before he left he was with his AP. That wasn't until the mid 90's and after my brother's suicide which is when my father officially checked out of the family.

[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 8:42 AM, May 6th (Tuesday)]


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YOP-

I think she said a lot of unnecessary words. Let me paraphrase for you:

Dear YOP,

It wasn't my fault. You're being mean.

Love,
NPD mom

Now how do you feel about the letter?

[This message edited by nekorb at 11:25 AM, May 6th (Tuesday)]


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sheesh yop))) - What do I think?
I think I need a drink!

Wayyy too much for me to unpack line-by-line, generally it's full of the typical evasions we're so familiar with here (on all of SI):
- never meant to hurt you/never done on purpose
- me me me
- etc.
iow,
All expected.

I'm sure it's crossed your mind to write it all out,
a bullet-point deal. If you can't talk yourself into leaving it at a written presentation only, to step away and protect yourself from the drama (which I'm sure will happen) -

I think it would be wise to have the bullet-point with you, read it, and stick to the script - avoid getting sidetracked...you don't want that, but it will be attempted.

I'm sorry it's come to this. I wish you well. I wish you peace.
yop)))


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Quakingaspen
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

nekorb - strength to you and power for your boundaries!

(((yop))) - it looks like rationalizing, guilt-tripping, and excusing. Regardless of intention, the damage was done. When most people hurt someone, even unintentionally, they accept that and apologize and try to make things better, not just move on, but you know you're not dealing with most people.

I don't think I could open myself up for dialogue like this. I'm afraid I would be setting myself up for more crushing disappointment.


I've seen enough.

WS-SA/NPD
D-Day: Too many in 17 years of marriage. LAST time 10/17/2013.


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Kajem
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I don't think I could open myself up for dialogue like this. I'm afraid I would be setting myself up for more crushing disappointment.

I feel the same way, which is why I haven't had it out with my mother. I keep her at arms length.

My therapist told me (dealing with XH) " Kajem YOU KNOW the truth." Somewhere along the way, i started applying that statement to mom. It helps me deal with her. I know the truth! Her twisting it makes no difference to anyone but her!!!

Yop, what is your goal confronting her?

I ask, because you already know the truth! What are you hoping to accomplish?

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, my, YOP. That was a doozy of a letter!

I thought the same thing as Kajem:

Yop, what is your goal confronting her?

I ask, because you already know the truth! What are you hoping to accomplish?

What is it that you are wanting to confront her about? Are you just hoping to get some sort of "authentic" apology? Re-establish a "normal" relationship with your mother?

You know she'll never see the light. I agree that you're probably just opening yourself up to more disappointment.

She mentions her therapist an awful lot. What if you had some sort of mediated dialogue with a therapist present? Would that maybe be more productive? Just a thought.

I'm sorry you are dealing with a mother like this. Mine was a true gem of a woman; I miss her so.

(((YOP)))



Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Thanks for the responses everyone. In the Dr's office with DS so I'll have to respond later.

Nekorb, loved that! Perfectly said and so true!!


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@jjct, Quakingaspen, Kajem, woundedby2,

Forgot to mention that the narcissist also sent my kids cards in the mail each with something like..."I hope you have fun this summer with (your other grandmother's name) in the pool."

I do already know the truth about what she is. Not looking to expose her, although that's what she's afraid of. My C as of last week advised me to not confront her as my C NOW believes me that she's narcissistic. Well that only took 2+ months of IC. My C originally told me to approach this situation like a victim statement at a sentencing. Except, you can see by the letter she has already sentenced herself. Karma is a bitch. No one left in her life except me and that's just barely. My C originally wanted me to do this for myself as a way of getting past the anger. To get it out. As jj says "Let go of the outcome." Get out what I need to get out and move on. So what I hope to accomplish is:
1. Get my anger out but not by yelling, ranting, and raving. More ice cold. Like Mrs' yop says, all I'm doing is holding up a mirror.
2. To not having any regret going to my grave if someone didn't confront her in my lifetime. I know feel it has fallen to me to confront the bully.
3. Establish boundaries and consequences. Though this is not a final version, something like this:
* I will not tolerate any further cards/gifts sent to my kids as a manipulation tactic.
* I will not tolerate the mention of AP.
* I will not tolerate any more threatening letters or phone calls to my father.
* I will not tolerate her disciplining my kids.
Those top 4 are absolute deal breakers for me which will result in our relationship being immediately terminated.

Need to finalize a consequence for these:
* I will not tolerate any mention of my father.
* I will not tolerate any more blame shifting.
* I will not tolerate any complaints about the divorce.
* I will not tolerate any snide comments about me, my health, my family.
* I will not tolerate any more rewriting of our family history.
* I will not tolerate her dictating the terms of her visits.
* I will not tolerate threats of suicide or suicide attempts.
* She will treat me, my family, my home with respect.

I do like the idea of a C as a moderator. I would like it to be her C. I have some buttler points to bring with me so I can stick to a script.

Bottom line, I don't even care if she speaks at all. If she doesn't hear me out, then our relationship is terminated. I feel strong enough and confident enough where I know I can walk away forever. I also avoid guilt by at least knowing I tried giving her a chance to remain in my life. If she's no longer in my life, it will be of her own doing. Also I legitimately like my kids to have a 2nd grandparent other than MIL. FIL passed away 15 years ago and my father is very ill so they don't see my father at all.

I can honestly say this. I have been trying to figure out what she is for the better part of 10 years. I stopped trying to figure it out for a long while, but since Oct through research that's now available on the web (wasn't there 15 or 10 years ago) it's pretty obvious I know exactly what she is. I know the truth. Every day I have felt just that much stronger by continuing to read and listen. I have gained knowledge. That knowledge has given me power. For the first time in my life, I feel like I'm in control of this monster, because I can honestly walk away. I told her as much during the phone conversation 2 weeks ago and now this letter is a result of it. She's desperately clawing at straws.

I feel a slight sense of justice for standing up for my family that she murdered. One of us literally, which, trust me, I know that alone should be enough for me to walk away.

Thanks again tribe from the bottom of my heart.

As a child of a narcissist, wishing you all the best and peace going forward in your lives too. After all, I think after this shit we deserve some peace.

yop


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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woundedby2
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Every day I have felt just that much stronger by continuing to read and listen. I have gained knowledge. That knowledge has given me power.

Wonderful!

I'm glad you're working though this stuff with a counselor as well. It sounds as if you are reaching a point of peace with accepting whatever happens with this.

Wishing you the best and sending strength.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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