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User Topic: )On a scale of 1 through 10 ) How angry did you get at OP?
Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about 100.... That bitch kept after my fWH even after he broke it off. She kept texting.. That's how I found out...
One day she will pay!!!


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW = 10
OM#1 = 100(Relative of mine and her LTAP)
OM#2 = 100 (Former Co-Worker of hers)

I am about a 95 for both of them. A 7 with her right now. Give me a trigger of any sort and it jumps right up.

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I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1029 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
Realizationland
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of the ones I know about:

1 - 7. Thought she was weird and pathetic.
2 - 10+. Totally my opposite. 2x college flunk-out, drunk, manipulative, loud, profane, crass, underemployed, broke, and living with another guy. She's even my physical opposite.
3 - 1. She's just a kid in her 20s and he was an authority figure to her. More pathetic in so many sad, sad ways.


Me - BS
Him - WH
Together 17 years, married 14

Posts: 20 | Registered: Feb 2014
ImOKNow
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a 7 for him and a 10 for her

Posts: 2 | Registered: Feb 2014
ImOKNow
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a 7 for him and a 10 for her

Posts: 2 | Registered: Feb 2014
dmari
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

0
She ain't worth a number


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2129 | Registered: Oct 2012
aero1122
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

10 for him because he betrayed me.
10 for her because she knew he was married


Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R

I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!


Posts: 98 | Registered: Dec 2013
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At the height of my anger? For XWH, a 10. For OW, a 4/5.

Now I just feel sorry for them both. After all, she has to deal with him, and he has to deal with her. Eww. They can have each other.


Me: Looking forward to the future
Him: Left behind in the past

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


Posts: 675 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
BrooklynLove
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

8 for him and 10 for her . She taunted me so she gets a 10 and was a manipulative bitch.


Will never be naive again...

BW - Me (28)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (33)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (3) and DD (5 months)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on


Posts: 110 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: USA
Crashtestdummy
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OP: 10^10 we are talking on a logarithmic scale, right??? I am just waiting for him to die so I can piss on his grave and shit on his headstone... Maybe I should not wait and piss on his head and shit in his mouth

XWW: 0, she is irrelevant except when I write the check each month... Then she moves to the front of the line


BH-Me 51
XWW-her.... 54
2 Wonderful Sons: 32 & 21
D-Day: 09/22/09
Married 20 years
Divorce Final: 08/12 Enjoying Life!

"I Don't Suffer From Insanity, I Rather Enjoy It". Serge A Storms


Posts: 82 | Registered: Nov 2009
lilmonkey
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely 10 for WBF and 10 for OW. Different kinds of anger though.

WBF was more an upset, offended, disappointed sadness. Like, "how could you do that to somebody you love?" The kind of anger that would make the offender shrivel up with guilt.

The anger towards the OW is just shameless, merciless anger. Bitch. Whore. Slut. Homewrecker. I didn't know her well, but she was a part of my WBF's life for a long time and we had even been introduced once and she gave me a hug (after the infidelity had occurred! How nice). I just don't get how someone could do that to someone else's relationship, even if they didn't know them. You have to be one selfish, manipulative, heartless person to do that. That's the kind of anger I have towards her - just pure hatred.


Posts: 44 | Registered: Dec 2013
outside4me
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Initial Anger: OP=7 WS=10. Now (2 1/2 weeks post D Day) OP=5 WS=6. Acting on my anger ain't gonna fix what happened, so I try really hard to keep that in check. They both peg a 10 on the disgust meter, though.

Posts: 218 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Colorado
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just don't feel anything for the one OW I positively know about. There are several others I suspect, some specific women, some EA and some PA, but again, I just don't feel anything for them. Not anger. One in particular annoyed me at the time, but meh. Whatever. These women are so pathetic, and my ex is such a good liar & deceiver. The nature of his betrayal/infidelity is such that I just don't have a sexy love affair I can point to and blast with my wrath.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9317 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
hurtingfool
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Default  Posted: 2:48 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW 9
AP 4

WW because of lying mostly, she did something I had wanted, just without me.

AP because I knew it was a possibility that some jackass would try something while she was deployed. The thought had crossed my mind even though I never acted on it or made any attempts.


Me: BS 31
Her: WS 29
10 years of marriage
12 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NW US
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Both a 10. I always thought I'd have no ill feelings towards an OW but after seeing how hard she pursued him knowing he was married then used me and the kids as a way to keep contact...I realized she was just as guilty. It really pissed me off when she told me I needed to lighten up and called me insecure as if it's completely normal to engage in cybersex with other people's spouses. She claims she never wanted him....okay then why was it so hard to leave him alone?


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Loadsofchocolate
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH gets a 9. OW is easily 10+. As soon as I discovered the affair she began taunting me. I have never had any contact with her, didn't even know who she was. Despite all the abuse i have had from her I have never retaliated. She stalks me online and if I block her she just opens up a new account and begins the abusive messages again. Apparently I'm in the wrong for preventing WH from contacting her as they were destined to be together. Now they are both heartbroken and it's all my fault ...no thought for my feelings or those of our 2 kids or her partner then


Dday1 - June 2013 admits EA
Dday2 - June 2013 broken NC minutes after agreeing to reconciliation - only found out 3 weeks later
Dday3 - July 2013 broken NC
Dday4 - September 2013 broken NC
Dday5 - December 2013 broken NC admits PA

Posts: 28 | Registered: Sep 2013
Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A ten for the both of them. There is not a word to describe my rage at the both of them.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 554 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
sadinlex
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, February 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HIM: 10
HER: 10


me - BW him - WH
Together 23 years, Married 21
2 children 14, 11
Dday - 4/11/2011 double betrayal
"After the A, being honest and being a bitch are pretty hard to tell apart." - Ladyogilvy

Posts: 147 | Registered: May 2011
hobbeskat
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

10 for both. She was my friend. She was at my wedding. That blows my mind.

Posts: 306 | Registered: Mar 2013
jstbreathe
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, February 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LostSamurai))) Pretty much explains the way I feel!

Because I'm a firm believer in equal opportunity, I give them both a 10 for pure disgust!


The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 18 years
2 sons, 11&15
Trying to R

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