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User Topic: Finally out of that toxic place
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was walked out of the building on Friday. This was long in coming but it still stung when it happened. My boss told me that it would probably happen somewhere in February but Friday morning he and the HR lady came into my office. I looked at them and said, "we have to do this now? OK I'll be out by 5." They said, "no you have to leave now."

Like I said I knew this was coming for the past year. My boss could have blindsided me back in August when other managers were pushing for me to be out but he got me more time and then informed me that I was on borrowed time. I told him that there were a lot of things that I disagreed with but I did appreciate generally how he was handling it.

The reality is that the place is toxic - for me anyway. I would walk in feeling energized and ready with a list of things I wanted to accomplish. Once I got in my office I could feel the energy just drain out of me. Depression hung over me like a cloud and my motivation had become like it was when I went through the mess that brought me here.

Rather than go into the heavy details, I can say that I own my shit. I can see where my actions and follow-through needed improvement and where I need to step up. I also recognize the drama and NPD bullshit by one individual that sidelined me at every step forward. And I've learned to never confide in HR about anything serious. Office politics and retaliation can be very subtle and I definitely saw it happening but felt powerless to stop it.

I actually have a sense of relief with this. As far as I am concerned, right now I'm retired! And I have a lot of things around the house that I want to get done, now I have the time. I don't feel so overwhelmed anymore. A little down at times but that passes fairly quickly.

Seriously though, I do have a good amount of opportunities available and have one interview set up for later this month for a fantastic opportunity for a start up opportunity that is backed by a multinational corporation. I am also seriously considering my own start-up. I am actually in a position where that might be a possibility. I've tried a few times to start my own business but cash flow has been an issue. This time I might actually be in a better position to attract investors.

I'm really just venting but if anyone has any thoughts about starting a business, funding availability or making that jump I'm interested in any suggestions or comments. (Of course if anyone is interested in throwing some cash in my direction, please send me a PM JKJK!!!)


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3407 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like quite the mixed bag, ga. Congratulations, I'm sorry.

You've got a fantastic attitude, which will serve you well on your next path. Sending you strength and positive mojo for the journey ahead.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best of luck to you GA! As NiK said, sounds like you have the right attitude. Time for a road trip!


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No advice but sending you mojo my friend


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best of luck ga!

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have the right mindset, though I'm sorry you have to go through this ((gahurts))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..time to KICK SOME ASS gahurts


..starting your own business? Do your research..and then do MORE research..

..and get all your friends to lend you some money..

..take a holiday from all the bull.. recharge your batteries.. do a purge..clearout the cobwebs.. do some serious drinking!!!

..this business??? can you run it out of your home? briefcase? laptop?? 50000sq.ft. warehouse???

sending mojo for business/retirement

smy


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She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck moving forward; I hope this is the start of a wonderful new chapter for you!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad that you have such a good attitude about this! Good luck in whatever you decide to do!


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If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the mojo everyone. I really appreciate the good thoughts and support.

smy, The first part is consulting to get a few clients set up. The business that I want to set up though would require some rented warehouse space and the purchase of equipment. I've been laying out and refining my idea for this for the past 10 years and I think I have something that will work. I'm putting a business plan together and then look for some investors.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wishing you good luck in whatever direction you take next.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, February 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

New beginnings! Yay! Now that you're out of that place, your energy should take you in the right direction. Good luck, my friend.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7180 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
SpecialK
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, February 5th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been there done that, got the pink slip to show for it. Just remember, when a door closes, another one opens. Take this time to reflect and this time do something you are passionate about.

Good Luck and Best wishes


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, February 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope this leads to a wonderful, happy new beginning.

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