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User Topic: Wife left me for her new boss - Part 2
allatsea
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Default  Posted: 6:07 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Simple,

Thanks for your post. I am doing all of those things. I'm professional and well presented. I'll make sure to reign in my anger!

NIK
A friend of mine let it slip that she'd changed her name. She is blocked and I cannot see her profile or posts.

5454
Thanks for the reasssurance.
I've just received a proforma invoice from my solicitor for the hearing and all the preparation. Over £3000. CSTBXWW will have a similar bill, I imagine.
I texted CSTBXWW and said "Before I pay this are you of a mind to settle beforehand"

She replied "Only if you agree to everything I want"
It's what I expected but she's utterly confident that she's going to win.

I've now paid the solicitor


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now pregnant
Divorced April 2014

Posts: 648 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She replied "Only if you agree to everything I want"

Wow. Definitely send this to your attorney to be used against her. Clearly you are being reasonable, and she is, well...not. Threatening and extortion overtones, IMO.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1572 | Registered: Dec 2012
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I swear you and AD are married to the same psycho. I just don't know how she gets back and forth across the pond so fast!!!

Hang in there, the end is nigh.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7803 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
allatsea
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Member # 38923
Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

By coincidence Abb and I were discussing the very same thing only a few moments ago.

Cut from very similar cloth, it seems.

Mine is crazier than yours.
No, mine is crazier than yours


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now pregnant
Divorced April 2014

Posts: 648 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They say eberyone has a doppelganger - your STBX and Abbondad's must be each other's!


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

Posts: 363 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: VA
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Make sure you send a copy of the text to your lawyer. He/she can use this in court.


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6454 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
mountainmomma
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AAS

Just wanted to comment on this

She replied "Only if you agree to everything I want"
It's what I expected but she's utterly confident that she's going to win.

I challenge her confidence there, perhaps it's because she so UNCONFIDENT she's going to get everything she wants that she's trying this crap on with you. WS do use a lot of bluster and false confidence, they rely on us to "believe" their confidence and "fear" it, hoping you will give her what she wants. She's relying on you there to believe that.

Not long now and remember we are all rooting for you and behind you. As tricky as it might be this weekend with your boys with Monday getting nearer, enjoy your time with them and use it to do your best in court on Monday. Will we know you can do.

And NO MORE TEXTING THE LOONY!. Starve her of those ego kibbles.

In light
MM


Me 37
WS 42 (Mitty)
4 kiddys 9,7,4 &20 mths no5 due August 14
seeing hookers, NSA sites, escorts, anyone willing from 07/08 (i didn't know)left to do full time with no restraints 2010 Returned home march 2011 in R DDay 2.4.2010 OW 30+ age 18-60

Posts: 180 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: U.K
allatsea
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Default  Posted: 4:26 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This weekend is going to be brimmed with activities for the boys.

There will be zero communication with CSTBXWW.

I can't wait to get this over with although the nerves are building.



Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now pregnant
Divorced April 2014

Posts: 648 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Swims
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strength to you today, Allatsea. I hope you had a wonderful weekend with your boys....keep that close to your heart. You will prevail!!!

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Swims
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post

[This message edited by Swims at 9:01 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]


Posts: 122 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 2:14 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

aas, I'm absent from SI for family reasons right now, but please know that you and your boys are in my thoughts today and that I'm adding my name to all who will all be there in that court room supporting you in spirit. I hope the judge sees you for the great Dad you are.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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badd
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Default  Posted: 5:21 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

good Luck AAS you and your boys are in our thoughts and prayers today.

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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know you're likely already in court, but just wanted to let you know I'm praying for you and your kiddos today. You've fought fair and honestly, I hope your judge sees it and your barrister goes for stbx's jugular.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 858 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today, AAS!

Posts: 1576 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona
mountainmomma
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All the best for you today
In many people's thoughts
MM


Me 37
WS 42 (Mitty)
4 kiddys 9,7,4 &20 mths no5 due August 14
seeing hookers, NSA sites, escorts, anyone willing from 07/08 (i didn't know)left to do full time with no restraints 2010 Returned home march 2011 in R DDay 2.4.2010 OW 30+ age 18-60

Posts: 180 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: U.K
5454real
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2560 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck to you!


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
lostcovenants
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been following your story since my own D-day but this is the first time I've commented. I've learned a lot from you about honesty and integrity. Thank you for sharing so much of your personal struggles with us. May you find justice today. May your children know how you have fought for them - many would have given up when the battle was so long and hard. Best wishes - you are a great Dad.


BS 60; fWH 59; 2 children, 1 grandchild; Married 37+ years, he is my only; D-day 7/8/13; Married OW, PA 2009-2011; sexting with same MOW 2012-2013. Broke it off about a week before I found out.

Update-Sexting on cheating forums 14 YEARS. Idiot me


Posts: 139 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thinking about you today AAS


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8407 | Registered: Apr 2008
feelingfoolish
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you and your boys today. Hoping all went well in court.


me-44y
H-45y M-12 yrs
2 DS-21,15

06.30.12-- full PA with 24y ho-worker
08.16.12 DDay #2-are you f**king kidding me?
R-??? trying
07.21.13-Dday #3-filed for divorce the next day
R #2-hopeful but cautious.


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