Since WH started back to IC, it seemed things were actually making progress. He seemed to start recognizing some of his issues. His selfishness our entire marriage, the fact that my existence was unimportant to him until he needed/wanted something, a small awareness of the gravity of our current situation or the devastation he’s caused. He’s actually looking forward to his counseling sessions which I never thought I’d hear him say!
We put MC on hold until he spends some time in IC working on his issues. Also looking for a new MC, our current one isn’t actually dealing with the A at all, wants to discuss communication and all the usual warm fuzzy M stuff. We’re definitely not there yet!
I’m still confident that WH has skeletons in his closet he’s refusing to disclose. Still denies he knows anything about the porn charges on the cc, other questionable activity while on business trips, etc.
I asked him to sleep in the guest room over a month ago and he’s been in there ever since. Hasn’t complained much until recently, now I’m getting a serious guilt trip about his ‘quality’ of sleep on that tiny bed, he’s exhausted all the time etc. He stayed in our bed with me this weekend and I made it clear in the beginning it was only for the weekend and he agreed that he understood and would not assume anything further. Yet last night, when he tried to pressure me into letting him stay again and I said no (not in a hateful uncaring way, I just said I wasn’t ready), he slammed doors, cussed, acted like a complete ass! That’s his normal response when he doesn’t get his way btw!
Just when I think there’s progress, then something doesn’t go his way and we’re way back to the beginning! It’s not that I expect perfection, I just expect that he’s thinking about someone besides himself. Especially after he professes to be understanding that he needs to put my needs before his own!