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User Topic: What were the lamest affair reasons your WS have you?
Suckerpunched66
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I asked him what she had that I didn't he said "a smile".....nice Hugh! I get so pissed just typing that!


BS (me) 45
WS (the idiot) 42
DD 1 Feb 20, 2012
Married 16 years /together 20
2 beautiful 8yr old twins (b/g) My reason for living
TT until March 2012
numerous BJ's and 1 Day at a hotel where he threw it all away!

Posts: 37 | Registered: May 2012
Trying2Survive1
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"She's my back-up" but he never said he wants a backup wife so I'm guessing she was for backup sex!
Lame lame lame

When I asked him what she had that I didn't he said "a smile".....nice Hugh! I get so pissed just typing that!
What an a**!


Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Posts: 129 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
roses303
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For his first affair (same D-day), his excuse is that "he wanted to see if he could really pleasure a woman" because having a wife who was non-orgasmic with intercourse somehow made him less of a man I guess.

For the second affair, his excuse was that "he didn't think I loved him any more and he wanted to feel desired"

The man needs to figure out that manhood doesn't come from the penis.


Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303
sad34
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So many r coming back to me now reading all of yours. I never really wanted to have sex, and regretted it every time. So that's why u did it 20 plus times. It was always, she kissed me , she intitiated sex, she took my clothes off (and she must have forced every thirust of his penis)?
Oh and and I got the "I was weak shit to". Oh u r so much stronger then me....bull shit I apparently was the only one who gave two shits about marriage vows though.


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 140 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
sad34
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This pissed me off to:
She complimented me and made me feel good about myself.
I say "I complimented u all the time"
He says, "u have to your my wife"
In another breath. U made me feel bad about myself when I didn't mow lawn etc.
So let me get this straight, I couldn't compliment him cause I have to say that stuff but he believes when I say bad things so.... I was In a lose lose situation.
And I love this one: he was with her for 4 years so, he was in a long term relationship so at that point shouldn't have her compliments been in the category of " she had to say that stuff now?". I told him that he tells me. I never thought of it that way. Nope just in terms of how to throw the wife further and further into a pile of shit.


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 140 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
whiteflower99
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Revenge  Posted: 10:53 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I love you but I really like women"

"We are animals at heart so it is normal to give in to those instincts"

Yeah, talk about avoiding responsibility


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1747 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
Gajit
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It just happened.
yeah


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
sad34
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is my favorite I just remembered.
" she asked for my number, and well I saw everyone else do it, so what's the harm"
I said, well then jack ass u would have told me u gave your number to someone if it was "all good and fine" to do so.

[This message edited by sad34 at 10:59 PM, February 1st (Saturday)]


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 140 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
phoenixrise
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't think you loved me anymore there was a major disconnect

(yeah for you and you unplugged us!)

She gave me attention and made me feel special

(and was she taking care of your kids, cooking you dinner, washing your clothes, running your errands, giving special attention to your family? of course she had time for you but where is she now? Did she stand by you after like me or did she tell you to back off yeah real loyal...lip service is a breeze for someone a million miles away...oh but she wins your attention at the price of your wife and kids...traded in a smooth running clean beautiful classic for a pretty clunker...she may have looked pretty on the outside but she was rusty and had effed up stinky interior with many many many many miles many)

It snowballed things got out of hand and went way too fast

(you are not allowed to make snowballs with other women or anything having to do with balls with other women you should have set fire to that and fast!You loved making that damn snowball liar)

I needed an escape from reality

(ever dawn on you that would have been nice for me I could have used that attention while sweating my butt off countless days being lonely at home while you "worked" but instead of an escape with the mother of your children you escaped with a far less superior ditz! was your pie in the sky fantasy everything you thought it would be?...he said no...he realized he could have had a far better time with me...yup...that's right. Now if we can only rewind and cross out tacky whores and temptation

Sorry for long bitter post


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 213 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
Spelljean
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"In my mind, my marriage was over"

"She's everything you're not"

"She's up for anything"


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Why does it matter as long as it doesn't change how I feel about you?"

"I felt it was okay as long as I was nice to you, too."

"You didn't know, so it couldn't hurt you, and it made us feel good. It was just for fun."


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 492 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
phoenixrise
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg reading all these posts get me they are so into themselves only...it's sad really almost as though they are missing a chip of some kind empathy being one of them hugs to everyone


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 213 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
Hurthalo
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

'It was an ego thing.'
'It was the one thing in my life I didn't have to plan and could just run with.'
'It was like a hobby.'
'I thought you secretly might have been gay.' (LOL?!)
'I felt that you had already exited the marriage.' (WTF?)
'I actually thought you knew it was going on for a while anyway'


Forgive the unforgivable, or bear the unbearable.

Me BS (34) WW (29)
Married 2 years
2y old Daughter
D-Day 05 Nov 13


Posts: 138 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Australia
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could fill up buckets with all the lame excuses xWH gave for his choices. Every one was and still is ridiculous and a ton of bs. I don't even care anymore what the "real" reason is, it doesn't matter to me.
The one that bothered me for a long time was, "What was I supposed to do? You weren't touching me." Oh, I don't know maybe touch me and be loving and supportive of me?
It was just another way to blame me for his choice.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1778 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
deena04
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Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This one may be on here. He said "we were having problems and I thought we were on our way to done". Really? So that made it ok?


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1075 | Registered: Dec 2013
iwillNOT
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Default  Posted: 12:59 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The most idiotic and infuriating one:

"I did it to help our marriage. I wasn't getting what I needed, so if I went and found it elsewhere, I would be happier and so our marriage would be better."

YA, Einstein, `cause every relationship is improved by selfish, deceitful, hideous betrayal.

Jerk. Still makes my blood boil.



Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 512 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
Flourgirl
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Default  Posted: 1:05 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told him I wanted him to be happy and have the best life possible so he thought it would be ok. It wasn't!


BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids

Posts: 190 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
lostandhopless
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Default  Posted: 1:19 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heard it from OM "she can't help how she feels"

Why the fuck did she let herself get close to him in the first place????? Stop spending all your damn time with another man and spend time with your own friends!!!!


Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

Divorced 6/13/14


Posts: 118 | Registered: Dec 2013
bigskyblues
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Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ex was meeting guys by trolling CL and AFF. She created a name that sounded like a typical porn star name, and her email address was a variation of terribletrouble@emailprovider.com.

She claimed she was only contacting these men to see how they would treat their wives in a similar situation (she was having problems at work and I knew her boss)and unfortunately it turned sexual. I guess CL and AFF are the new place good marital advice.

I was amazed at the stupidity of this statement, and later learned that she started her little fantasy life before she was having the problems at work.


BH 50s
xWW 50s

Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012

4 kids all adults.

Married 22+ years.

I have moved on and life is good!


Posts: 261 | Registered: Sep 2012
Betrayed67
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Default  Posted: 1:50 AM, February 2nd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH said that the reasons he went to FFN and other dating websites were:

-Because his work situation (only 2 of them in the office, one other male) was quite lonely. He was used to interact with lots of people so he tired to recreate his "old" office situation by having women online friends, and chatting and texting them all day long ( yup, the idiocy and stupidity is beyond measure!!! grrrrr)
-I wasn't very nice and friendly enough
-I was angry all the time (which isn't true)

And the reason for having sex with the std infected OW? Well, she was 28 and she came on to me. It had never happened before - such idiot!


Me-BW 46 yo;Him - WH 53 yo
Married 13years
One daughter together 9yo, 2 stepchildren(His from previous marriage)
Various DDdays (see my profile)
ONS and multiple "friendships" with women in various online dating sites

Posts: 131 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Zealand
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