It's now been several hours since I first posted this and WH and I had an ok day but have been fighting for most of the night now. He is always tired from work and doesn't want to talk when I need him to talk to me. I had known before this that women had asked him for his number at work and that he had declined saying he was married, so I had to ask him "How many of these women walked away and left you thinking 'I wish I wasn't married so I could have a night with her.'?" He then told me there was only one he could think of that he was attracted to. I asked him what he was thinking and he said something along the lines of wishing girls like that would have talked to him in HS, as in before he met me. So I said "I talked to you in HS, what the hell is wrong with me?" And he of course says nothing is wrong with me and he didn't mean it like that but WHAT ELSE CAN THAT MEAN?! I asked him what is wrong with me that when I will do whatever he wants sexually he feels the need to experience other people? Now I am starting to feel like I'm not good enough. I just can't understand any of this.
[This message edited by mal2006 at 9:44 PM, February 1st (Saturday)]
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Thank you I will check that out
Your WH, like lot of ours, is a damaged person. If you way him to be a safe person to be M'd to, you must insist that he do the work to figure out what is wrong with him and to make it right. He should go to IC, read books, and agree to do whatever else you need to feel safe with him. Keep reading here, there is a lot to learn and lots of good advice and support!
No, he works in retail and these girls were just coworkers in the same position as him.