Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Sleepy (44725)

General Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Sometimes it is about me!!(tmi)
Unagie
♀ Member
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I am scared.....terrified might be more apt. I got my period mid December. I still have it. The last time I got it for 3 a weeks and the doctor told me I was fine that it was a normal period. It went away a few days later and for the next few months was normal. Now I have had it over a month. A few days ago it went away and I breathed a sigh of relief, then it came back 3 days later. I was at my breaking point. I sat on the bed and cried. XSO asked me what was wrong, bought me some candy because I'd mentioned earlier I wanted something sweet and told me call a doctor and he'd go with me. I sat there telling him "I'm not scared its cancer and I'm not worried its an std..." He gets this weird look on his face and asks me why would I be worried about it being an std. I told him I'm not, I'm not worried its an STD since you're the only person I've slept with since my STD test a year and a half ago. All that went through my head was anger at that moment, anger at myself for having an A that would make him immediately think that way of me and anger at him that this was something I'm sitting here terrified about and you make it about YOU!! I took a deep breath and let it go ansking if he was okay. He said he was still dealing with his own issues, I asked if he needed to talk and he said no and went to his computer. Meanwhile I started crying again, terrified and angry and just sad at the state my life is in and researched what could be causing this. I will be going to the doctor but I don't want anything said to come as a huge shock. I think I might be polycystic but I will wait for the diagnosis. Thank you for listening.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


Posts: 2701 | Registered: Oct 2012
cl131716
♀ Member
Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sister had similar issues with her period and it turned out to be PCOS.

(((Unagie)))


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Trying2Survive1
♀ Member
Member # 40022
Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Unagie)))))


Madhatters, M 31 yrs
FWW/BS 57-BS/FWH 56
Separated 5 mos in 07.His DDay,11/07.False R since 07. My DDay,7/5/13."Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: United States
Brandon808
♂ Member
Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not worried its an STD since you're the only person I've slept with since my STD test a year and a half ago.
I hate to ask but wouldn't this mean you might be at risk if he's engaged in any activity? Hasn't he been the wbf also?


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 3727 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
Unagie
♀ Member
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes Brandon which is what I thought but I since his were EA as far as I know I say naught. As it is I will have a full panel test run.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


Posts: 2701 | Registered: Oct 2012
steadfast1973
♀ Member
Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had this problem when i was on the birth control pill...


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
HeartInADustpan
♀ Member
Member # 38341
Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sucks it just seems to take over all aspects of our lives sometimes. So sorry.

I've been in similar boat with the messed up cycles. I was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis. Minor surgery to temporarily take care of the endo. Still deal with the PCOS and it sucks.

(((Unagie)))


Just call me Heart. :)
Reconciling
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

Posts: 379 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
bionicgal
♀ Member
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you old enough for perimenopause, Unagie?
Otherwise, I had a similar issue in my 20s. . . no one could figure it out, and I went to a Naturopath in Seattle and they got me fixed up with a bunch of herbs. It doesn't mean anything bad, necessarily.


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1887 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
StillLivin
♀ Member
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honey, it could be a lot of things.
I have PCOS, fibroids, Hashimoto's Disease, and endometriosis.
I have had MAJOR issues with bleeding and hemorrhaging for over 20 years now. There are a lot of successful treatments.
Sometimes it is as simple as changing birth control. There are D&Cs to scrape the lining off the uterus, hormone treatment...to include birth control adjustment, there is ablation, and hysterectomy.
If you aren't keeping a log of your cycles, you need to start now. It will help your doctor if future treatment is needed, i.e. further complications down the road.
If you are clotting, collect the clot and put it in the fridge until your appointment. Keep it in the coldest part of the fridge.
The last time I had issues, it wasn't my first rodeo so I was calm even through the hemorrhaging. Stupid STBXH wanted to make a cheeseburger and eat it before taking me to the ER...that was the only time I lost it.
I have some other information I can PM you later on tonight when I get home from work.
Make sure you are eating healthy and take a prenatal vitamin until after the bleeding stops or the doctor tells you to stop. Not regular vitamins, prenatal, they have more iron and other stuff your body is expending too rapidly during the heavy bleeding.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Unagie
♀ Member
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone. Stilllive I'd appreciate that!


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


Posts: 2701 | Registered: Oct 2012
StillLivin
♀ Member
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No problem.
I'll be home in about 3.5 hours.
Oh, is there ANY chance you are or were pregnant?


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
CATransplant
♀ Member
Member # 39567
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unagie,

I know you are under a lot of stress. Stress can make the body do strange things.

My body did exactly what you described some years ago, I hated it, the doctors could not explain it and suggested surgery. This too was un-necessary.

By all means check with the doctor but you may find nothing wrong.

If so consider learning stress reduction techniques.

I know at a time like this that is the last thing you may want to learn, but I can tell you it has helped me keep me sane, and focused on what was important. Triggers are a little easier to handle using the techniques.

My thoughts are with you sister.


Me BS
H FWS
M 3/27/12 together since 06'
A EA/PA 4/19/13/5/26/13
DD 6/12/13
Forced NC 6/13/13
MOW coworker-caught,TT for six months.

Posts: 112 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Unagie))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25053 | Registered: Aug 2011
knightsbff
♀ Member
Member # 36853
Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Unagie)))

I was exactly like that during perimenopause. I believe you are too young for that problem though.

I does suck so much.

Do take the prenatal multivitamins. Take care of you.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1411 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Tickingtock
♀ Member
Member # 41411
Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Unagie)))


Me: 31, exBGF, now married

Posts: 160 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: West Coast, USA
scarednbroken
♀ Member
Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Unagie)))

See your doctor!! Never mess with bleeding. I suffered with irregular periods, debilitating blood loss (excessive and lengthy), and mind numbing cramping since my 30s. I had tests run, scrapings, everything. Sonograms revealed that I had massively deep rooted polyps and a hyper uterus. (Yay) my doc did an ablation - just happened to be after a very light month...it did no good and was very expensive. She said if done after a bad period it would be more effective. (She wasn't running a bogo special so I declined.) I suffered a few more years and had an iud placed. So far ok (knock on wood my current cycle is going 9 days strong a year later idk what that means!!) but you need to see your doctor. Even if it's historical.

Hugs to you honey...


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
Topic Posts: 16

Return to Forum: General Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.