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User Topic: I am Not...a letter to my WH
NikkiD
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not the reason you cheated. You didnít start cheating with someone new after we got married. It wasnít because I wasnít giving you what you wanted how you wanted. You kept in contact with her so you could have a way back in. You brought her with you to this marriage. As such, it is tainted. There was nothing I could do to keep you from not keeping in contact and having sex with her. There was nothing I could do to keep you from answering when she called, or calling her. You made the decision to keep her near. For what reason I donít know. BUT, it didnít have anything to do with me. If I am so inadequate in the areas you claim mean the most to you, you had every opportunity to NOT marry me. Itís not my fault that I said yes to you when you asked me to marry you. Itís not my job to make sure you are being honest about your intentions. Itís your job to be honest about YOUR SHIT.


"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Midwest
Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bingo! The brokenness is deep within him.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5063 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
lovedmesomehim
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Member # 25743
Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Such a lovely rant, Nikki.

Stay strong and in charge of your own life. I do believe you are going to be just fine!


Posts: 469 | Registered: Oct 2009
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep yep yep!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 9995 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Itís not my job to make sure you are being honest about your intentions. Itís your job to be honest about YOUR SHIT.

This.

Maybe this will help me get past the "how could I have been so stupid" issue.


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep repeating this as often as you need to until it sinks deep into every pore of your being. It is the truth with a capital T. And it's what makes you strong even amidst the pain.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4203 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Loved the rant! You rock.
Asswholes....unremorseful WSs that are too weak to own their shit!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2481 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
NikkiD
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe this will help me get past the "how could I have been so stupid" issue.

Not your fault. You arent the truth test police. Its is up to each of us to be honest about our own stuff. AND when we cant, walk away so we dont fuck up other people.

Keep repeating this as often as you need to until it sinks deep into every pore of your being. It is the truth with a capital T. And it's what makes you strong even amidst the pain.

I didnt think of it this way the first time. BUT putting this in black and white is going to be my solace...I will repeat it to myself everytime I start to have a pity party. AND until he is board with this sentiment...crickets....and if he takes too long to get it then I will hit him with the D.


"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Midwest
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