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User Topic: Well...this is an interesting turn of events.
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This goes along with my other thread about my dilemma about helping one of the bus stop mom's with her two daughters.


I was at the bus stop this morning with DD7. The mom with the two youngest children (kindergarten and 1st grade) was there. Her kids and my two get along very well. I was talking to the mom. I'll call her D. We haven't seen each other much and were just catching up when she brings up the other mom (the one who was back and forth about the issue with L - I'll call her S).

So, D tells me about S finding a new job and I tell her that I'm happy for her and how S had asked me to watch her daughters a few days in the morning. D tells me that she was also asked and told her no. That sent up a flag and I said to D "Really? She asked me and said that you were going to watch them for a few days and needed me for the other days." That opened up a whole interesting can of worms. I found out a lot more about S than I really wanted to know and now I'm glad that I said no to helping her. I would have been on the hook watching her two girls every day because D had already told her no.

Dodge a major bullet right there.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You went with your gut and made the right choice. Isn't it nice when you find out that you can trust yourself and your decisions?


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You went with your gut and made the right choice. Isn't it nice when you find out that you can trust yourself and your decisions?


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

gossipy AMA wants to know what else you found out about this mom


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's shocking and something I suspected, but didn't really want to hear about


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do tell!
We don't know who she is anyway, so give up them deets!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - R looks possible..

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6367 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What she is a crossdressing stipper?
Oh come on spill it.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree, spill!

I could use a distraction for a little while.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1411 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're all making me laugh

You asked for it...

Ok, this may not be a big deal to some, but just remember one thing, I'm in a small town.

So D told me that S walked up to her one day and told her all about her husband's "cocaine addiction." S told her how it's been like this for years etc... S just told D this out of the blue. However, when you look at S's teeth they are all gray, broken, and falling out. When I first met her I noticed it and just thought that she maybe she had some health issue that caused it, and it was none of my business. Then, for some reason, meth popped into my head. Again it was none of my business. I ignored that thought because S was watching D's kids in the morning. D stopped that after S told her about her husband.

S would tell me how she goes out each morning for coffee. I assumed she was just making conversation. Then D told me that she's gone for four hours each morning. So D is wondering if she's out buying drugs.

Then D was telling me about her daughters. The youngest one (1st grade) lies to everyone about everything. This girl made up something about D's daughter (kindergarten) to the point that D's daughter was crying because she didn't do it. Plus, the girl has moments where she will break down and have crazy tantrums and then be fine the next minute (S even told me about this). Now, if the drug thing is true, even if they stopped when she got pregnant, couldn't that effect the baby? What if they stopped a few weeks or a month before they found out she was expecting, would that still have an effect?

The other daughter (4th grade) has issues. She seems to fluctuate between feeling fine and depression. There's times when she's gotten off the bus and she's glared at me. D and I are wondering if she knows what's going on.

D told me that she's been in their condo and it's trashed. They hardly clean, it smells of animals and smoke etc... They are renting that condo and whenever they move out the owner is going to have a lot of clean up on his hands.

I hope for the girls sake that none of it's true, but why would S come out and say something like that out of the blue about her husband?

I'm just really glad I'm not helping out. I don't any of that drama around my kids.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As George Takei would say, "Oh myyyyy..."


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - R looks possible..

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6367 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're telling me!

It was funny when I was typing that out. I don't like to gossip so I felt funny "D said, then S said, then D said."


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The fact that S has rotting, gray teeth seems like the problem may not only be her husband's.

I feel sorry for the kiddos, but I'd stay clear of that crazy. You DEFINITELY dodged a bullet!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - R looks possible..

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6367 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agreed on the bulletin dodged!

Poor kiddos.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1411 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The fact that S has rotting, gray teeth seems like the problem may not only be her husband's.

That's my thought.

I'm definitely staying clear of that.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those poor kids. I'd be tempted to give CPS a call if you really and truly believe that one or both parents have problems with substance abuse.


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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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