Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.
I've had four months of TT and gaslighting. Very little information disclosed, except what I have uncovered on my own. Another lie uncovered yesterday. He says he is remorseful and is "trying to do whatever it takes to repair the damage" that he has done, but his actions aren't matching his words.
I don't see me ever having another serious relationship, if we decide to D. All I have to look forward to is loneliness. This is how I am feeling.
I might need to view it as part of our journey instead the end of it.
I like this perspective though.^^^
Even if it is the reason, I don't see why it's a problem. That's part of why long term relationships are so deep, because of those experiences. Now you're having another one, and hopefully when it's all said and done it will deepen your bond as well.
I agree with nekorb. History is part of your relationship, and you cherish it for good reason. It is only right to be sad whatever the ultimate outcome.
Wishing you peace.