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User Topic: Mojo for sister and B.I.L. stageIV cancer
TheRealDeal
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Helpless  Posted: 7:21 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 51 year old BIL experienced multiple TIA (mini-strokes) a week ago past Sunday.He was immediately hospitalized and tumors found in his brain, lungs and hip bone. Biopsy was performed last week and they received the results two days ago.

He's been diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer. it had already metastasized to his brain and hip bone.

We know it's based on statistics and every person is different but he's been given a year. 1 year. oh my god, everyone is devastated. Its only starting to sink in...1 year.

He is such a great guy. My sister is treated like a queen and their 3 year old daughter like a princess. He is the epitome of health; works out daily, never smoked, ate "right", didn't take meds, etc. He's an anesthesiologist so is familiar with all the 'should' 'should nots' from a medical standpoint and he followed them. He never had any symptoms of anything wrong before the TIA; seriously one of the healthiest person I know.

Everyone is left wondering "why". Why him? Why now? And there is no answer. Just no answer to it. Only overwhelming sadness.

Our families believe in the power of positive thinking and how that makes such a difference and we'll do that, but it is just so sad, so many questions and no answers.

He'll battle the cancer with a positive outlook and fierce determination. Our families will be there to hold him up if he thinks he can't do it anymore.
It would help knowing he has other support too. He needs as much positive thoughts as possible.


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 249 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending super strong mojo and positive thoughts to your BIL and your whole family.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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scarredforever
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers for your brother in law coming your way.


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1057 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Healing and strength sent your way, as well as to your BIL and sister in the coming months.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1668 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cancer is such a terrible thing, I'm so sorry they are having to face it. I will keep them in my prayers. May God give them strength and courage.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 867 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((and strength))))For your entire family.

He knows he has a limited amount of time, encourage him, your sister, and the entire family to make the best of that time.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8506 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52199 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My father was given 2-4 months, made it a good 3 years and 4 months - I'm sure his positive attitude was part of that.

Sending positive thoughts and mojo and best wishes.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Somebody has to be part of that small percentage that makes it. I am praying your BIL is one of those that does. Every day they are making strides. Diagnoses that were fatal 10 years ago are treatable now. You never know which experimental treatment is the one that is the cure. He has a lot going for him in that he is tapped into the medical community, he is young, he has reasons to want to be here. Mojo and prayers being sent!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6583 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo and prayers.

Posts: 35167 | Registered: Mar 2011
mom of 2
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for you, your sister and your BIL and family.

My brother was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer out of the blue and given a timeline. It's devastating to hear. Seemed fine until he experienced minor pain and went to the doctor. Cancer is a bitch and does not discriminate. FUCK CANCER!

Sending tons of positive thoughts your way!


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13316 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. I'll be praying for healing for him, and strength for his family. And I'm going to second this. Fuck Cancer!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4804 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Real Deal,

Your BIL and family have been prayed for.

Sending mojo and positive thoughts too!


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1426 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone. Your good thoughts and support are very much appreciated. The positive stories you've shared are inspiring and we are certainly hoping the same outcome. We are all still trying to reconcile the news; it hasn't yet fully sunk in.

But he is certainly a person to live life to the fullest so in addition to being positive and fighting the cancer, he will certainly be sure to make the most of his days.

And yes, I agree, F**k Cancer


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 249 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
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