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User Topic: Open heart surgery..... (dad)
GrievingMommy
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Sad  Posted: 8:54 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having a loved one probably needing open heart surgery is so scary. You know what makes it even worse? When you work in cardiovascular surgery/ICU and know what can and does happen.

My dad has another coronary angio tomorrow, but he miserably failed his stress test today showing his heart isn't nearly getting the oxygen it needs. They doubt they'll even stent anything and instead, do surgery. He's already scheduled for a consult with the surgeon on Thursday.

The only plus side is I can hand pick the surgeon and staff that works on him. Makes me feel a tiny bit better (but not a whole lot).

He's otherwise healthy and young (62 y/o) so I'm hoping things go well.

I'd appreciate a few good thoughts thrown his way if you have any. Thank you!


Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11

Posts: 1691 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Upper Midwest
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending it all, GM. You know what can and does happen, which also means that you know the good outcomes too. Focus there, honey. ((((GM, Dad, & Family))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending good thoughts for a successful surgery and smooth recovery.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending positive thoughts and strength your way. (((HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending good thoughts.


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Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

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Posts: 51906 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Going_Under
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((GM)))

Hugs and prayers to you and your dad. My DD17 will likely be haivng her second open-heart surgery soon and you are right, it is so scary.

It sounds like your dad has a lot of positives in his corner, but I totally understand how you feel.


BS 42 (Me)
FWH 45
M 23 years
Three Children ages 20, 17, and 8
D-Day 08/10/2004, 7-Year LTA that ended 4 months before D-Day.

Evil never thinks it's evil, it always has a really good reason. ~ Joan of Arcadia, TV Series


Posts: 4558 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: Pacific Northwest
GrievingMommy
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone! He's scheduled for surgery Feb 10th. He needs to be off all blood thinners.

Another thing that makes this scary is due to his religious beliefs, he will not agree to blood transfusions. He would rather die than accept it. Even though I don't agree, I told my parents that I will abide by his wishes.


Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11

Posts: 1691 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Upper Midwest
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, January 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending many good and healing thoughts his way.

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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's scary that he won't accept blood transfusions. My dad has an aortic valve replacement this time last year. Right after his surgery he bled out a lot of blood and they had to put him back in surgery, but instead of a transfusion they actually filtered the blood he had lost and gave it back to him. I'm unsure of all the details (that whole period of time is a blur), but I hope that is an option for your dad if he loses any blood.

I will hold your dad in my thoughts on February 10. I remember how scared we all were my dad was in surgery; I hope you can find some peace and calm in the days ahead. Best of luck.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1654 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, January 31st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((GM))))

I was a CVICU RN when my Step FIL had his CABG, and they went to a hospital outside of my network, so I didn't know Jack about the surgeon.

Being in that situation, first hand I know how anxiety riddled it can be.

Sounds like you have a best of situation though with his age, and you handpicking the Surgeon.
On a lighter note, I had 2 patients this week that both had OPCAB's and were extubated, and up in chairs the same day of surgery, and went home in 4 days. YUP 4 days. One isn't even taking pain meds.

I wish your dad that type of recovery as well.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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