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yestopants
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

feeling kinda low today. I just found out from a friend it's been over with the original OW but he started dating someone else now. It's been only 2 and half months since I left….. WTF is wrong with him? I am in NC and told my friend I just can't hear anymore stuff. It has just set me back a little….I feel like he must have never loved me. How long did I live a lie? I never saw any of this coming I feel like such a fool.

He's out partying, sleeping around and I'm stuck with all the responsibility (don't get me wrong I would never trade my kids for that). He hasn't given me a cent and I doubt he will…I have a great family and they are helping me but I feel like I have the biggest mountain to climb to be able to support me and the kids on my own.


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2013
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is empty. He is trying to fill a huge hole inside of himself with superficial shit.

I'm sorry- it's like they aren't the person that we knew.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7765 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
yestopants
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks williesmom

I hope he never fills that void. He made the hole. it's just more proof of what an A@$ he is.

He is totally different in everyday possible.


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2013
Mousse242
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he's out on the town he's spending marital $$. You need to file and get some financial support in line ASAP.

Posts: 5473 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Chicago
yestopants
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Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he is in another country. It is going to take me months just to get CS. I've been told they will be able to garnishee it, as there is cooperation between the countries regarding CS. It will probably be about 7 months though. I can't afford a lawyer yet so the financial stuff is in waiting and I don't have access to the money he is making there. He really left me and the kids with nothing. He sells our stuff to pay for his life now. By the time I do the finances there will be nothing left and I will be waiting for years to get anything.


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2013
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex is like this. When I told him I wanted a divorce, he got a girlfriend three weeks later. I remember I once told him that he would bring a girlfriend to my funeral and he was offended. But I know him, he can't be alone.
The new OW (that he got engaged to right away - before we even filed) was literally psychotic. That didn't work out, so he got involved again with someone else a month or so later.

He can't keep a job, just got fired again. His life has become a train wreck.

While it doesn't feel fair sometimes, especially when you feel alone, know that they're not really with someone - they're using a salve and these often don't work out.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((yestopants)))
I'm so sorry he's put you and your children in this position. These people are empty, just can't be alone. My STBX is already whining about being lonely while looking for another OW (and pretending he's not)


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 942 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
yestopants
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for responding to me…I don't know what I'd do without you guys.

I am looking forward to indifference. I am looking forward to getting IC. I am looking forward to a better me without the broken empty soulless asshole. I'm going to make 2014 amazing and the icing on the cake will be a big happy DIVORCE at the end!


Me: 35
STBXWH: 38
2 amazing kids DS DD
almost Divorced!

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2013
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