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User Topic: Reluctant to hash out financial data
Smashedat58
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all, I' m on my way to getting a collaborative divorce, with no regrets. I have let go of the false future I thought I had. My problem, now, is that I can't bear to see WH to get our financial information documented. I know I have to do this, but I know I'll be nasty to him. He's such an unbelievably selfish pig, that he still thinks he's a great guy for helping me get the information that I am entitled to. It would be so much easier if he showed the least amount of remorse. I had to put him off today, because I didn't sleep well last night, and I told him I was sick. He came over, anyway, to his mother's house next door, and I'm just waiting for him to leave, so I can do what I want to, today. Anybody else ever feel this way, trapped, or in a rut?

Posts: 82 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't understand the dilemma. Maybe I'm not reading your post correctly. You say you're going for a collaborative divorce, but then say you don't want to share the data necessary to make that happen. Is that right?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8784 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read it as Smashed doesn't want to see her STBXWH in order to get the data.


Me - 41
My Rockstar (Hubs #2) - 46, faithful, & an absolute doll!
DD(20) and DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs and 2 Cats)

The Cheater:
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
Married 18yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 5531 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: United States
Smashedat58
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Member # 41705
Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's it, I feel sick at having to see the WH. I'm stuck on this.

Posts: 82 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then may I suggest scanning & emailing the data? That's how most of the data I got from my ex came. Scanned into a pdf and emailed.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8784 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Smashedat58
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Member # 41705
Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, January 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying to do this as we speak.

Posts: 82 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
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