This is a first for me as I make it a rule for myself to not get into an argument in someone else's thread. But this is twice now that you have not been supportive of SAF and I feel a deep need to jump in here.
People who live in glass houses should not throw stones RB46. Seeing as how you took your time to go find this thread and update it with some name calling, I did a little homework of my own on your sitch. You do realize that your wife turned you into the OM in your situation. With her leaving you for her AP and then using you for her other needs while she was still with her ex-military/fireman boyfriend, same "cuckold" label could be used for you. And this is how you felt about it:
"However, I feel, as I did do when I found out about the OM, that I'm kind of paralyzed by what's happened and feel totally emasculated."
If anyone should have compassion for SAF it should be you RB46. Cuckold? Really? I see you as the same thing in your situation. While your wife was out having the time of her like with her OM, she would use you to take care of the kids.
Nice. Really Nice RB46. Stop throwing stones when you are no better off.
SAF. How are you doing brother? Let us know when you get the chance. Been thinking about you lately and I know things have to be progressing somewhat one way or the other.