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User Topic: When the WS becomes pregnant
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((SAF))))

Now what. You know that NO matter what you decide, stay or go, we will support you, but we will give you tough love to demand the respect and love you deserve.

(((and strength))))

Life is short, demand the love you deserve.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8738 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Saf))))) I'm so very sorry.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25834 | Registered: Aug 2011
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((SAF)))

My heart just broke for you. I am so, so sorry.

Take a deep breathe. And then take all the time you need to proceed.

Did you think of any plans in case this became the truth?

Again, I am so sorry.

sending strength.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1306 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Skan
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know that you were expecting this result, but it had to have been a knockout punch to the gut. I am so very, very sorry. Please remember to keep breathing and to take care of yourself. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((SAF)))


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((SAF))) I am so f-ing sorry.


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 1037 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry the results came out the way they did.

sending strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3019 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Even when we *know* the answer, it still hurts to really know it.

I'm so sorry.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8103 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
annb
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((SAF & children))))) I am so sorry. I cannot fathom the pain you are in.

I also cannot fathom an adult married woman purposefully getting pregnant by her AP.

I am both angry and sad for you and your family..

No matter what you decide, please do what's best for you and your children. Truthfully, your wife should be out of the equation at this point IMO. I don't think she understands the impact of her choice as nothing has really changed in her life.


Posts: 7599 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
Swaying
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry.


Me: BS-34
Him: WS-43
Together 4 yrs, married 2
2 kids: DS-3, DD-18 months
First STD: 38wks preg w DS.
Second STD: July/August 2013
DDAY 1: Nov 5, 2013 admitted to ONS
DDAY 2: Nov 23, 2013. LTA is preg. W twins. Due June 2014.

Posts: 32 | Registered: Nov 2013
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, friend.


BH-47
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 2077 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was really hoping against hope that this would turn out differently. I know you were too and I am so very sorry for the pain you are in right now.

Please know that even tho we all don't know each other IRL, we are all definitely connected to one another. We are all here for you when you are ready.

Take care friend

[This message edited by outtanowhere at 9:05 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]


BS - 58
SAWH - 61 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 38 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

Posts: 761 | Registered: Apr 2013
confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How are you doing today, SAF?


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7741 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
swizzlestick03
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAF, I am so very sorry.

How are you holding up today?

Remember-you don't have to make a decision on anything today. Allow yourself time to get through the shock of this piece of the puzzle.

We are all here for you and will support you.


Me: BW-33
Him: WS-32
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One smallish kiddo.

Posts: 571 | Registered: Nov 2010
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAF

Praying you are doing as good as you can.

Sending more strength to you.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1306 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
strangeasfiction
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, everyone. I'm doing as well as might be expected. The actual result doesn't bother me as much as her reaction to it. We're headed for separation right now, I think.


Me - BS 39
Her - WW 34
Kids - 3 & 1
Married - 9 years
Status - FUBAR

Posts: 211 | Registered: Jan 2014
cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so incredibly sorry. (((SAF)))


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Nov 2010
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A separation will allow you to heal and her to get a goodly dose of reality.

I am so sorry it has come to that, though.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

Posts: 29677 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry that you're hurting. I don't have anything to add other than to make sure you're taking care of yourself. You still have your children who need you and you're going to have the fight of a lifetime on your hands. Make sure you're eating healthy, drinking lots of water and getting sleep.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 868 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What was her reaction?

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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