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User Topic: your worth is not in them
mof2
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I posted this in the Divorce/Separation forum, but felt like I needed to post this for those who just found out as well.

I read this earlier and really felt like I needed to share it with all of you. In the beginning, I felt worthless and "what did I do wrong". This made me smile

"You don't need anyone's affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn't actually about you. It's about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don't have to internalize that. Your worth isn't contingent upon other people's acceptance of you - it's something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter, You're allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You're allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You're allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you're allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise."

Everybody have a happy Sunday and remember that the person who abandoned you does not determine your worth.


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 313 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good post. Thanks for reminding all of us hurting BS's.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 586 | Registered: Mar 2003
lostandhopless
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

Divorced 6/13/14


Posts: 112 | Registered: Dec 2013
absolut
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Default  Posted: 1:22 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you m

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EB1541
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, January 21st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing this! It's a good reminder to everyone who is hurting!


D-day Jan. 2, 2014
Just married Nov. 3, 2013
My age: 22, his age:26
One wonderful son together - 11 months old

Posts: 87 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
FaithnMe
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wanted to bump this..

Found it so fitting for me today, and knew this could be uplifting to others!!


Posts: 30 | Registered: Jan 2014
mof2
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Faith))))

It just made my day that this could help you today. Keep your chin up and please hang in there and focus on you and your sweet baby! It will get better....I promise!


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 313 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for posting this. I need to print it out and read it everyday.


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


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