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User Topic: Trying to quit smoking and triggering
Joanh
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Stop  Posted: 1:13 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am trYing to quit smoking. Not sure if I should even bother. During year two, If the last month has anything to say how the next year is going to be I am going to need something!

I cant drink, for fear of starting, its an issue in my family and a serious fear for me, I am trying not to bake too much cause I will end up with a different problem,

Urr, And honestly I hate cleaning house. I do it but I hate it, so it will not substitute.

When he is angry my fears jump in and I am trying to find a way to come back from them, I'm okay, He told me it wasn't me , it was triggered by our conversation. And still it wouldn't be a problem if it wasn't me. It would have been a discussion. I know he thought of all the pat blameshifting and some of the problem I have had and some of the things we have discovered to be my triggers. Oh I am rambling


I wish there was some type of sponsor program here, . Some type of contact. My best friend has enough of her own crap going on and all it does is make it that her past and all her pain come forward, and she kinda done with it . they are in the mindset he should be over it:-(

Move on.

:-(

Anyways, I think I am a little nuts right now. Plus anyone else notice the full moon, increases anger, anxiety and depression>


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 435 | Registered: Apr 2013
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chicho and i tried to quit Last Christmas. We made it 5 days.
I think we're ready now, well more ready than we were then!

The crazy shouldn't last too long, go for a walk, exercise, go outside and breathe fresh air! Or scream...

Quitting is so hard, you can do it!

I wish there was some type of sponsor program here, . Some type of contact

You can always send Pm's.
I've spoken with people here on the phone before.


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1133 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
Joanh
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks broevil,

I think I am just setting myself up for another failure. Its triggering that thought process, see you can't even do this, and then I think my H will see it as weak too. If I can't quit. By the way we both are trying to quit! as well

He works away too, so when the anger comes out its over Skype and there really is no way to share any type of intimacy or to take any solace as we do when we are together. So the smoking is my replacement , or my grandmothers donuts I make.

Thank you again for the response.


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 435 | Registered: Apr 2013
longroadhome
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've quit using electronic cigs. Soooo...still addicted to nicotine and the smoking sensation, just not inhaling smoke. It does work and i feel much healthier. Worth looking into.

Good luck.


Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known

It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier


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leftoolate
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, this topic came up a couple of days ago in General Forum, and last fall as well. I started a 'support thread' in Off Topic, perhaps we can help each other out. Will you join me there?

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=519736

It's a short post, but I'll expand soon.

~L.


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SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I am just setting myself up for another failure. Its triggering that thought process, see you can't even do this, and then I think my H will see it as weak too. If I can't quit. By the way we both are trying to quit! as well

Nicotine is the hardest thing to quit, be gentle with yourself!!


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1133 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
Joanh
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks, for the ideas and I will try out that support in off topic. Thanks you. Checking out about the electronic cig. too.


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

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