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User Topic: O.L.D
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uuuuuugh!!!!!

I HATE OLD! I signed up for match.com again to give it another try but omg I hate it! I feel like I'm trying to sell myself like cattle! And I find it creepy that people I don't even know are looking at my pictures, etc. I really would love to meet someone though but I just don't know how to find people in real life. And I know quite a few people who have met people through OLD. I just don't know if I have it in me. It totally creeps me out. I am such an introvert. This goes so much against the grain for me.

Any shy/introverted people here ever have luck with OLD?


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm shy but not introverted but maybe I'm still qualified to answer. Can you look at it differently than "selling" yourself? "Marketing" maybe; "Presenting" yourself like the young aristocratic ladies did with their debutante balls?

I went to a small college in the 1980's and we had this freshman photo album with everyone's picture in it that we were given early in the first semester. It was a way of people getting to know the other members of the class (I think this type of publication was what facebook was based on). Sure everyone was looking up the cute guy or cute girl they met in the Union and wanted to find out what his or her name was...but it was a way of making the community closer. OLD can be like that...just a tool to meet someone...based on some basic trivial information, but it is only a first step...

I like to see who has "viewed" me as a possible way of connecting with someone who's profile I may have missed, but if that part grosses you out...skip the "who has viewed me" feature.

And as a shy person, I have met some really nice men through OLD. Hopefully I will someday have one of those "we met on Match" love stories to tell. awwwwwww


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi R&B

I also felt the same way as you. When I had photos posted I received many "creepy" messages and etc. In fact, I went on one date that I thought would be "okay" he turned out to be the worst. After that Incident I took my photos off and gave up the notion of OLD.

About a week later I received a message and began chatting with this person. That was about 5 months ago, we emailed for about a month, we talked endlessly on the phone and then decided to meet face to face ... I had to give him a lot of credit as I had seen his photos but he had never seen me. We've been together ever since.

I found that his integrity and character of chatting with me but never knowing what I looked like spoke great volumes to me about who his is... It is just a though and or may be I just got incredibly lucky... But who knows may be others have met that way and it might work for you also.


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lostandhopless
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have found that for match has been pretty slow. Pof has been better. It takes a person who really knows what they want to talk to me, because I am moving as soon as D is final so I am looking for people where I will be relocating to... I let them know my situation up front and the ones that have been worth my time have been very willing to continue dialog through text email, msg, and a few phone calls but all know it will be a few months until they can meet me. I have found that the ones I seem to be drawn to are the ones that have been through infidelity also, I think it is because they know the effects and I feel safer with them.
I don't think anything will come from it and know that I need to be careful, I try to look at it as entertainment. it makes me feel good to get a msg from some one. I very rarely msg them first


Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

Divorced 6/13/14


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invictus
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need a translator! I figured out that pof is "Plenty of Fish", but what is O.L.D. (besides what I am and how I feel?)


♥ One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz

Posts: 1863 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Texas
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OLD = On Line Dating.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2585 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but what is O.L.D. (besides what I am and how I feel?)


Haha! That's how I feel too!


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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MeMinusOne
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, January 8th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I consider myself shy and introverted. After my divorce I joined Match and ultimately found my now fiance that way.
When I joined I told myself that I needed to learn how to flirt and converse with the opposite sex. It was an experiment of sorts and a training exercise. I did not expect to meet anyone significant and was completely prepared to meet a bunch of wackos and duds (in very public places of course for no more than an hour at a time) just to practice dating. It worked a little better than I had expected. I did meet a bunch of duds (no wackos thankfully) and then met S. And almost 4 years later we are now engaged.

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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, January 8th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/J question: is the number of people in the free search function of match how many men are in my search criteria when you are signed up? If so, there are very few men living near me on Match. :(


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


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