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User Topic: So, I'm back on Match...
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After seven months of nothing resembling a date or even an eligible bachelor, I decided to try Match again. Did a three month deal and will take it from there. Last time I had mixed results - met some nice guys, but the overwhelming majority of interactions were... unsatisfactory. I'm in a new town, so things like me being a social progressive or an atheist are not going to be opening the floodgates for vitriol. At the same time, I feel like there are a lot more creepers. I also have some big OLD pet peeves, like not being realistic about your body type (50 lbs overweight, but you play club softball once a week does not make your body type "athletic & toned"), ignoring wants/interests (e.g. age ranges, I go up to 10 years over, I'm 35... if you're 57 I'm not interested), or having pictures that are five years old so that you're unrecognizable in person...

As you can see, I'm a bit cynical about it all.

I actually have a coffee date tonight. The guy wanted to do dinner, but I have learned the hard way that you don't want to get stuck in a meal with someone you've met OLD).

Wish me luck.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have a great time! And the best of luck!

Posts: 387 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck. Have fun!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have a wonderful time! Remember! It's just coffee. Meet up, hang out, have fun and leave. If it's fun enough, have a second date. If not, then not.

Enjoy your match.


Posts: 2486 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its great you're experienced and you know to start with coffee!

Low expectations, curiosity and sense of adventure were the most helpful qualities for me when did OLD.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5872 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck to you. Let us know how it goes.
I have been emailing with someone for a few weeks but I am going to tell him I just am not ready to even meet as friends.
GOod for you for getting out there!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
dignityintact
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a number game…date as many as you can, and one will turn up! Good luck (I'm on Match too)


"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"

Divorcing - at last!


Posts: 94 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a couple fairly good dates with a gal on Match recently.

To my surprise, she sent a Facebook friend request to my son by accident!

Yikes!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 727 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Date was actually fun. Not crazy awesome, but a good conversation and we are lining up a second date (some schedule conflicts, probably in a couple of weeks). Nice guy, cuter than I expected. He didn't smile with teeth in any of his photos so I was a little worried he would have bad teeth - nope, nice teeth. He bought coffee and tiramasu. He wanted to get a drink but I declined as I have some more work to do tonight.

Followed up with a "thanks, looking forward to doing it again" text. He replied with the same.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
torn2bits
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOOOOVE to hear these little stories! Gives me some hope for later.

Good for you.....

Since you were off for a while and then came back its like shuffling the deck! New prospects added in.


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you had fun.

I just joined match for 3 months too. I also hat it when 55 year old men contact me...or when people from different states contact me. I am not interested in long distance. I don't have time for that. I'm hoping I have better luck this time on match than I did last time I tried. I seriously hate this dating thing. Blaaah!


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, January 6th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

glad it was a good date, hurt! A good date helps with the cynicism perhaps?? (and mmmmmm tiramisu )


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3216 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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