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User Topic: I feel loved
Kelany
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Member # 34755
Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm feeling so loved by my husband. I think about his affairs several times a day, but not the searing pain that I once did. He's proven by his actions that he is all in. He understands my triggers, my emotions and does everything he can to help me. Last night I was feeling down and he comforted me, and again this morning. He approached me, asking me if I needed to talk. He reassures me often. He is a better husband than I ever had before. I feel like he would never hurt me like this again.

Is that trust coming back? I won't ever trust fully, but...he's proving every day he wants me and will do the hard work to fix us.

I love him so much. The monster he was during those 5 years is not who he is now. Is he proving he can change his stripes?


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
struggling3
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Member # 34671
Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like you can feel some optimism and isn't that nice...even if it makes small appearances in your mind. As that begins to feel more like the norm it is such an uplifting feeling. So good for you both. Continued healing!!!


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 28, 25, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 318 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
brkn_heartd
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Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe it is healing. Trust rebuilds slowly and it sounds like you are trusting him more now. I think it is wonderful. It is wonderful that your H is actively working to help you heal!


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1642 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Kelany
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Member # 34755
Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He really is trying to help me in every way he can.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's just wonderful. I'm so happy for you! I hope that 2014 brings more and more of the same.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4915 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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