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User Topic: Spam??
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So...I am in A season...although 4 years out. Of course I am goosey and think I always will be during this time of year. FWH has had some medical issues that have created issues with endurance in general so sex life has become almost non-existent (he struggles to do normal activities...I can see it).

Today, I was cruising through our junk email account that we give to business so our normal email is not junked up. In the Spam folder was a Facebook message from Adrianna. It mentions hey, I have tried to email you a few times, but my computer kept freezing up...we had chatted on FB a few times...remember me? Anyway, I am moving to your area....blah, blah....at first it sounds like someone that may have had a conversation. Later in the email, it goes on where she is looking to work in a bar, and she has a webcam...and her boss will give her 3 passes a day to let people view for free....she is one of the lucky three passes...she goes on to say (and beg) not to give it out to anyone else or she will kick him in the balls or (lick him on the balls)....etc. At the end is a commercial looking link to see the camera. Interestingly, the email address it showed as the "to", was not OUR email address.

My brain tells me it is Spam....I did show it to him, he adamantly denies all of it. When he see's it is in the Spam folder, says we get that stuff all the time. My heart of course is pounding and the fears have returned. I guess I don't understand enough how the computer catches Spam and filters it. If I knew it was fool proof I might feel better.

I don't feel like anything is off other than lack of sex (due to his physical issues that I have witness and had him in the hospital for). Spam or not???


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1654 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get those pretty regularly, also from an Adrianna (among others). I never open them because I'm afraid of viruses, but it goes straight to junk and the title has 'Adrianna' in it.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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1devastedmom
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's spam. I received the exact same email several times but the reason I receive them is because I signed up on an escort site to see if I could find my husband there. That tells you he has been on bad sites.


Me BS: 42
WH: 44
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9
Reconcilling

Posts: 140 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lots of the junk is about sex, affair websites...some in a Asian language I cannot read. I wonder how long they send to that email address? So if it was 4 years ago and the email address still exists...do they still send? Could it be from years ago? I do check his history and it shows very clean...He acts VERY, VERY remorseful and demonstrates his remorse regularly.


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1654 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
FeelingSoMuch
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would breath a sigh of relief. To me that sounds like spam.

Common span, too.

And I expect that it's normal for anyone who has been betrayed to question that kind of span, so don't feel bad


Me: BH
Her: WW
Together since 2001, married since 2007.
D-day: Feb. 20, 2013.
Broke NC: 2 phone calls since
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R.
It got easier: They no longer work together.

Posts: 509 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup, spam. My H got the same one. Gave me a minor heart attack until I read the whole thing. :)


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 951 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but the reason I receive them is because I signed up on an escort site to see if I could find my husband there. That tells you he has been on bad sites.
Not necessarily. I haven't signed up for any of those sites and I get them.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38092 | Registered: Sep 2007
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get that crap all the time, and I'm on FB twice a year. The emails usually refer to my FB photo, which I've never uploaded.

Hmmm...I keep forgetting to post a photo of Paul Newman as me....

Spam.

[This message edited by sisoon at 7:28 PM, December 29th (Sunday)]


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10383 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone! You have helped my brain and heart connect!!! I thought my heart would jump out of my chest when I first started to read it.

My husband was upset that I thought he was doing something. On the other hand I reminded him that if I REALLY thought he was doing something I would not have shown him but started gathering evidence. It left us both uneasy. If it hadn't been for the A it never would have been a question.

PS....I did check to make sure my security was up to date on my computer prior to opening.


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1654 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it makes you feel better I them, too. So far this weekend I have received the following-
Hey it's Jennifer. Why don't you email me anymore?
Christian dating
Divorce help
and an offer for a product that would enlarge me if I was a guy, which I'm not.


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