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User Topic: Why is he such an A$$?
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Making Christmas dinner -- we have a ham, potato casserole, squash casserole and corn casserole.

All need to be baked for different amounts of time - no big deal, right?

WH says, "Do I need to cook the ham on the outside grill - but it doesn't keep the temperature steady." I say - no, it will all fit in the oven. So I go outside with my son to retrieve is soccer ball that was kicked over the fence. When I get back, it's time to start cooking.

So, he goes to put the ham in the oven -- and OMG, he will have to move the shelves. So he slams the oven door shut and says he's going to cook it on the gas grill.

I get a little perturbed because the gas grill doesn't keep a steady temperature -- like HE said.

So, he throws a fit as he goes back into the kitchen to put the ham in the oven that "Mom always has to have it her way and I'm always wrong" -- in front of the kids!!!!!!

EVERYTHING fits in the oven just fine -- just move the shelf!!!!

Sorry - I know there are a lot of folks dealing with a lot worse stuff today -- I'm just sick of him acting like a baby and pushing the "blame" on me.

I can't wait to get a job and file!!!!!!


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, that's an asshole move. I don't know why they have to act that way. If they truly want to be a help, then do something helpful, right?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9238 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahhh, the widdle muffin had a mantrum. Poor snookie! Maybe you should change his diapers too.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4551 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Skan - you made me smile!

I swear he's a bigger baby than my kids most days!


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To answer your question, I would imagine he is an ass because it is his nature and you will be well rid of him! Those types of mantrums are exactly what make divorced life peaceful.

((hugs)) and his behavior is fuel for moving forward.


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You mean you wanted him to move the oven rack all by himself? But was it hot already? Gee, girl, I don't know. Sounds like you were being awfully tough on him.


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 6

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post, but I think he deserves a few more

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 2:27 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)]


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 6

Posts: 1991 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those types of mantrums are exactly what make divorced life peaceful.

Cannot wait to have mantrum free days!

ButterflyGirl - you made me laugh -- thank you!


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 6

Posts: 1991 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's an ass because he is.

You sure won't miss this crap someday!!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3518 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh boy do I remember these moments.

I don't miss him sucking the joy out of every single moment. It is just so bloody unnecessary.

EVERYTHING fits in the oven just fine -- just move the shelf!!!!

Here's to moving the shelves so that all the good stuff fits into our lives.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5398 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
ItHappened2Me2
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you PurpleRose and SBB.

LOVE this:

Here's to moving the shelves so that all the good stuff fits into our lives.


BS - me (52); WS - him (52)
DD 15yo, DS 11 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013 - he started up again with the

Posts: 241 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Texas
myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH just thinks all that food magically appears and the mess magically disappears.


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


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