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User Topic: FB and my right as a parent, etc
lifestoshort
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my ex's gf is posting pics of my teenage kids up. one is under 13. I keep reporting it as my friends can see the pics. one was all of my kids in bikinis. how long does it take for fb to delete them? and yes, I have asked her 3 times to delete them via fb and text and I have asked my ex.
something is going on with ex. he has lost all care about his kids. all 3 are depressed, ones in counseling for suicidal thoughts and HE doesnt think it has anything to do with his gf. the fact that she lives at the house and upon her moving in, she had to destroy the whole house we built together to make it the way SHE wanted.
they have all told me they hate her. the best friend and sister of my ex hate her... yet nothing happens. Im sick of it.

will it take my child to possibly kill herself before he gets it? nope, even then he would not. he doesn't even want her to be in counseling. (or the other 2) I told him this was the issue last yr. he refused for her to get care for any. so I took her last month without telling him and shes still seeing a provider. (when gf moved in it started and each kids lost their room and had to get a new one months later) its only gotten worse over time :( I have talked to him over and over and my eldest even moved out. he still doesnt do anything.

my kids disliked my hubby alot (because he was lying and doing shady stuff) when I could see it was causing alot of issues in them, and not just myself, I walked away. since hes been gone my kids are much happier here. I see the longer the kids are at my house, the happier they are. but then they go to ex's home after a week, and we are back to dealing with bad behavior again, saddness and I have to start all over.
they vent to me for days about the gf and her sassy kid. they vent about how much the gf yells at my ex. so they sit in their rooms the majority of the time at his house. when he leaves town, she wont even watch them or take kids to his appts on HIS days.

the gf (per my kids) is very into herself. thinks she knows it all. my suicidal daughter is now very self concious. the gf brings her to victoria secret to shop and is always taking her to get makeup and her eyebrows threaded. GRR! shes 12. the gf wear high heels and short skirts to work and in front of my kids (i have seen this) and she jokes about in front of them. Im so livid. I hope they break up. he and I used to get along till she came around.

there are tons of other women in the world, why cant he pick one that doesnt have 300 pairs of $200 shoes, make my kids feel less pretty and they really dislike her and her bratty kid that spits on my kids. ahh. I just want to scream. how is a dad so clueless. reminds me of my mother who chose a man who hates kids. thats so selfish.


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 677 | Registered: Mar 2008
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would send her one last text informing her that she does NOT have the right to post pictures of your underage children, that posting bikini pics is inviting dangerous people into your children's lives, and that if she refuses to take them down and stop putting pictures of them up, you will file charges of child endangerment and have her investigated by DCF, risking your H never seeing his children, and her child being removed from her custody.

And then, if the pictures stay up, do it!

EDIT - and send your exH a copy of the text, informing him that you are serious about protecting your children, even if he isn't.

[This message edited by painfulpast at 10:29 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)]


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

Posts: 1710 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Strongmama
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is horrible! I am so sorry for your kids and you!
I would report for sure! This is unacceptable!
I can't believe these idiot Ex's and their clueless gf's!
My Ex's latest pathetic and I'm sure über desperate gf is a teacher and a mother so I thought; great! Better than the crazy whore's he's had....then she sent my youngest a friend request on FB! Wtf? I would NEVER EVER send a child a friend request! Desperate! Did she not think I wouldn't get the notification as I'm in control of those; for creeps like her!
This is a teacher too...I feel your pain! You Ex's gf sounds like a total ridiculous clueless narssists...my ex's newest victim is prob just an older desperate divorcee who can't do better...it's all so depressing for the kids involved:(
I'm sorry. Please report or take to an attorney.

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lifestoshort
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have asked her nicely, I have asked forcefully, I have asked bitchy by saying I will message you everyday till the pics are down. he messages me, stop harrassing me. I said thats not harrassement, its my legal right to protect my kids.
pics still UP! im so so mad.

why wont FB take em down yet? its her profile pic. the bikini pics tho, she just hid them


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 677 | Registered: Mar 2008
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

legal action.

This isn't a pissing contest even though they are acting like it. This is a safety issue. If he won't step up to the plate, have a judge drag him there.

I'm sorry he's so wrapped up in her pathetic world.


It's so easy to believe someone when they're telling you exactly what you want to hear.....

Posts: 1710 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
hummingbird8
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think you honestly can do much about it. He as their father is giving his permission for her to have them up. I know that's not what you wanted to hear.

As for them being in bikinis. If they wear them in public anyone can take a picture of them and post it anywhere, so again not much I think you can do about it.

I know it all hurts but getting to indifference about the new gf, and how many shoes she has or what she does with her time, is what is going to benefit you and the girls the most.


Posts: 452 | Registered: Aug 2009
lifestoshort
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think what would benefit my children and my ex and I's relationship is for him to get a girl who one, likes kids, treats the kids well and takes into consideration there is another woman who he had has to raise children with. and thats me.

if Im the parent and Im asking for something about MY kids, I better get the wish respected.

he says there are no pics up. he doesn't have FB. but she does. and she probably lied about it. honestly, how hard is it to find a woman who doesn't want to change your house, make you poor and make your life hell even before married. he's a damn fool to stay with her. the kids say the only reason he is with her now is because the house is so expensive that he would lose it if she left. meanwhile, he is poor as hell (with a half million house, 3 cars and a pool) and the kids lose because he has no money left over each month.

sigh. this wont be pretty till shes gone. I have never disliked someone more than this one.


6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.


Posts: 677 | Registered: Mar 2008
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