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User Topic: I can't help it
Gajit
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had a Christmas fantasy this past week that my stbxh shows up at my house to talk to me.

I know it is a fantasy. It will never happen.

Christmas sucks this year. ugh.....


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Gajit))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Gajit))) I am so sorry.

It sucks for me too.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2625 | Registered: Jan 2010
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Gajit)). Sorry this is such a hard time time of year.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3535 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm right there with you. This is horrible. Plain horrible. Let's move on to January already.


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 199 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
ruby44
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right there with you. Just got back from cmas eve with my family. My one sister always makes family calendars.
This year she hands out the present and my anniversary isn't on it nor my STBXWH's bday. It seems with just a few clicks, the last 13 years are gone. That made me a little teary, Still hoping for a hallmark moment but I know it won't happen. Looking forward to January!


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Lies!

Posts: 276 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right there with you Gajit, just left my house yesterday and I'm spending Christmas alone in a hotel.

But you know what? It's better than having the WS come by and mess your recovery. And you know it would.

((((Gajit))))

Truly I understand it today.


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 683 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Gajit))))) That was how I felt just last year. It will suck this season. Take care of yourself and trust that the pain will recede. Where I am at emotionally this year is the exact opposite of last year and I expect it to get better every year from now on. It takes time but it can happen.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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