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User Topic: Quick sudden setback
mof2
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know if it is the holidays or what, but all of the sudden I am in pain again. I started thinking about how he spoiled me on every holiday and how he made me feel so loved all the time...up until the day he asked me for a divorce. I started thinking the love that he showed me last Christmas is going to her this Christmas. He was MY husband and now he is so engulfed in her and on the receiving end of the love he once felt for me and told me would never end. Hurts :(


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 313 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mof2, think think think!
Yes, he is with for FOR NOW! BUT just like he walked out on you, he will do the same to her! Don't let them get to you. Karma will come around. It always does...

Hugs and love to you during this tough time. You will smile again. That is the funny thing about life. It has lows but it has highs as well. Just wait for the next happy time, because it WILL come!

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 2:33 PM, December 20th (Friday)]


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pregnantandsad
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry mof2. This is such a hard time.


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((mof2))))) So sorry, sweetie. Sending you comfort and strength.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Know what you mean, mof2. And you're right, it sucks.

But if you think really hard, you'll be able to find something he used to do that stressed you out at xmas too. Keep looking for it.

Then remember that the walking fuckhole is on the receiving end of that now.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then remember that the walking fuckhole is on the receiving end of that now.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3282 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
NotFixable
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((mof2)) I'm so sorry you are in so much pain. Know that you aren't alone. We are all right here with you. It is a horrible time of year to be going through this, not that there would be a good time. Stay strong! Better times are ahead for us!


Me-BS
Him-WH
Married 13 years
DD #1 03/12
DD #2 11/20/13
Status: Separated and planning D
___________________________________

Nowhere left to go but up!


Posts: 101 | Registered: Dec 2013
mof2
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You all make me feel so much better. @Exit Wounds, it does go through my mind though that maybe they will last. Am I the only one who dreams of the day that relationship fails? I'm afraid it will never happen and I was just not what he ever wanted to begin with even though he made me believe I was. I think the holidays are making me feel "more betrayed". I am thankful for all of you and the crazy amount of support I get from my family and friends.


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

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sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, December 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there sister. You don't want to be with someone who could do what he did. His love is worthless to you now. He is useless to you now. You can't unsee him, he is what he is and you deserve better. What goes around comes around and he may be happy at this minute while you are sad, but you will someday be so much better off and happier and he will miserable, sad, broken and ruined. That is how this story ends. This is just the shitty part for you and the good part for him, but all that is going to change, have faith.

FTG. FTG. FTG. chant it, meditate it, whatever, but FTG FTG FTG.


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 8:07 AM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mof2 there are countless women and men who have been left for the affair person. However many of those affairs didn't work out! So don't worry life will NOT let him get away with it. Hang in there but live your life. Don't wait for him. One day you will be healed and suddenly you get news about him that will make you smile! It happens all the time. Karma comes to hit him hard. Wait and see...

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