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User Topic: I can't believe this
BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is really my life. Raising 2 kids as a single parent. My mom raised us by herself and I swore I would choose better for my kids but now I'm on the same path. I accept it but can't believe this.
I guess I should get some sleep. Usually when I start to feel this crappy, it's because of insufficient sleep. I haven't slept the whole night!


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


Posts: 333 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((BrighterFuture)))))))


I just wanted you to know you've been heard. I hope you get some rest. Get some sleep aids from your doctor if you need them.


Posts: 3303 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
20Hopeful16
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((BrighterFuture)))))

I totally understand the feeling. Every once in awhile I'll just look around and thing... how the hell did THIS become my life?

Good luck getting some sleep. Xanax has been my friend many nights over the past four months. Best thing my doctor did for me immediately post DDay.


Me: BS (39)
Three Beautiful Children 12,9,5
DD: 8/24/13
Heading for divorce
Moving on with life

Posts: 107 | Registered: Aug 2013
PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry too that you are in this difficult place. My mom divorced my dad (infidelity) and raised my sister and I by herself. It was at a time where that wasn't very common and I know it was really hard, but she did it and we are proud of her. My mom taught me how to not only survive, but to be happy and have fun wherever you are in life. She has a positive attitude and to tell you the truth we grew up thinking we were a "normal" family. However, I too did not want my children to be raised in a single parent home. I also thought if my H knew how strong I felt about infidelity, it surely wouldn't happen to me. Here I am. I have not told my mom, it would just be too much for her.
We are trying to R, but if it doesn't work I know I can survive as a single parent. YOU can too. Sure it isn't easy, but actually it has some positive aspects. You can get creative and create a loving "family" for you kids with friends, neighbors, community members. You can not only survive, but you can find joy in raising your adorable children. A 2 parent home isn't necessarily "better". You have the opportunity to make your home as loving, fun and happy as YOU want!
I am wishing you much strength, lean on others as you go along. It's ok to cry and be sad. It's also ok to smile and enjoy yourself.
Take care of yourself!


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone! However, I'm handling the situation relatively ok right now without AD. This situation is not recent, it happened in Feb and we've been separated ever since. However, I sometimes reflect on the direction my life took and I feel sad. I realized this happens to me when I haven't slept enough. So, I went to bed, woke up and took my kids to the mall for a photo with Santa.

PinkJeepLady...my mom raised 5 children by herself without my dad's help. Child support was not mandatory in my country at the time. She is hardworking and a very good example to me not to be a doormat and dependent on a man. We however missed a fatherly figure in our household as kids and so wanted it to be different for my kids. Without knowing, I chose someone with the same qualities as my dad. I'm doing a lot of self reflection to make sure I don't repeat those mistakes.


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


Posts: 333 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 2:48 AM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think any of us envisioned our lives taking the turn they did. I liken it to being victims of a crime. Not to minimize crime victims here. But we are here because of bad decisions of others. Random collateral damage by those who's selfish desires lead them to hurt people around them. The saddest part is that the perpetrators are those who claim they loved us. But we must endeavor to persevere.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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