What I really hope is that my WH doesn't ever have to look back and regret any of his bad and selfish choices (but I know this most certainly will happen). I also hope he doesn't have to follow in my FIL footsteps and spend the last of his days as a miserable, guilt ridden, lonely old man. Don't know if this is actually anything to do with Karma. ....
'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in
I don't want you all to be thinking that I am some forgiveness guru. I am still just a girl and a betrayed one at that.
After that, I wish that what he did to me, all of it,is done to him.
[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 6:24 PM, December 16th (Monday)]
If the WS/BS situation were reversed for us, she would be overflowing with righteous indignation, it would never end for me. She loves being the victim for attention.
Justice would be divorcing her and letting her be with her AP. Except, he went back to his wife, so where does that leave my WW?
I try my best to stay on the high road, I know it is the right thing to do for me. I don't think about acting in revenge, I need to show my kids a better example.
But, occasionally, karma thoughts enter my mind.
There are days...
I wish that OM would do to XWW exactly what she did to me. Cheat on her for 6 months, then abandon her and move in with OW while he divorced her, while lying to everyone about it, then marry the OW on XWW's birthday, and cut contact with her. XWW is terrified of being alone and this would scare the shit out of her. It would also hopefully help her understand the living hell I was forced to endure.
Although I believe no one should ever endure infidelity, I believe that it is the only way XWW would ever "get it."
This, to a tee. It's all I ask.
It has to be emotional pain on the same level as what she has done to me and our beautiful children. She needs to be betrayed by the person whom she trusted implicitly and then he needs to absocond with her bastard child so she has no-one. She needs to be devastated as to how this person could treat her so badly. And if he gave her a nasty sexually transmitted disease for good measure, then that would be the icing.
Right now he is alone, lonely, living on a boat in NE (brrr) and has no relationship with his kids. The holidays are here and I'm getting emails again, sad, mournful emails about how unhappy he is. He seems to temporarily forgotten that the Holidays never meant anything to him, that they are simply devised as a "ploy by retailers" to get rich... Sounds like Karma right?
But give it a week and he'll forget all that and be madly in love with some new girl - this he will interpret as a "sign" that all his suffering was leading up to meeting "her". Lather, rinse, repeat.
For OW, I hope she falls in love only to have the guy leave her at the altar with the worst case of chronic onset herpes from her belly button up to her vestigial tail. Of course she would be allergic to every known med. She would then find out she has early onset menopause and her magical wet vajajay would dry up to dust.
For me, after enduring this mess, I would have the most wonderful nights of sleep and rest. I would never, ever be unhappy again. My boobs would magically lift up off my belly, my abs would reappear, and my face would look 25 again.
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
So I'll bet that most of us BS's would not wish for something terrible..just a little justice.
Sorry to disappoint. I'm still wishing for something terrible to happen to her.
... but it doesn't really matter, because the woman has no empathy: No amount of suffering she goes through can make her understand the pain she inflicted.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
If I were to choose my karma, it would just be feeling safe and secure. Not having financial stuff to worry about. Having happy and healthy kids. In a few years, a passel of grandkids. Healthy and happy ones. Maybe a nice man to share my life with--but if not, good friends and happy family will be just fine.
At the moment, I am watching from afar as Mr. Trac-Fone circles the drain. It's not the kind of karma I wanted. I don't want it for him, and I don't want it for my kids. But I think it quite likely he will die quite soon--and the kids share my concern.
I asked for it after DDay for both WW and OM. I didnít want to punish her, but I had hoped the universe did. Iíd still jump at the chance to punish him.
I wish I could take back my wish for her but it already came. The months of her most recent affair and the brutal early stages of reconciliation have taken just as many years off her life as mine (maybe even more). Itís aged her visibly. I still find her beautiful but sheís not blind and sees the changes in the mirror. And, in the quiet moments with herself, she will forever look back at this mistake with contempt at herself. Thatís enough karmaÖtoo much.
For OM. Heís already divorced twice and lives in a broken down POS house like a slob. He may be a doctor, but heís gambled himself into debt and his son has nothing but disrespect for him. How much deeper can karma push him into his self-dug hole of shame? At the very least, I hope that the bout of erectile dysfunction he experienced on his one and only sexual encounter with my wife becomes a permanent malady. An untreatable permanent malady. Iíd be upset if he got drunk and drove into a telephone pole. My wish is for karma to give him a lasting, unquenchable embarrassment. Sort of like what I got out of the deal.
Yeah, POS is "busy" and can't visit.
I am not worried about my pain, but I DO want him to feel the pain he caused them. It is unacceptable! They did nothing wrong! He should have kept a relationship with them...
[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 2:03 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)]
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA/then PA
In MC & Reconciling
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