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User Topic: If You Could Pick Your Karma?
JerseyCowgirl
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have seen several posts where others advise us not to hope or wait for karma for our WS's and good advice it is but so many of the BS's have always taken the high road and yet it seemed to always work against us that we do sometimes take joy when a BS takes that high road and finally more good things finally start to happen for us and also get to see some of that "reap what you sow" come to the WS:s. So I'll bet that most of us BS's would not wish for something terrible..just a little justice. Mine would be that all the horrible lies he told about me would be shown to be lies and it would be known to everyone that he in fact did this...How about you? Is the karma you want for your WS something like mine...more along the lines to help you recover?


Me: Divorced 2012
I know that when I truly love & honor myself I am at my best & most complete; and I will never settle for anything less from myself or from anyone else ever again!

Posts: 286 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Have not decided where to land yet!
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't want anything harmful to befall my spouse. I wish the OW would just disappear. That's sbout it.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."


Posts: 4464 | Registered: Dec 2010
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What I'd like for my WS is for him to fully realize the extent to which he has hurt me. He sees it - he watches my anguish and my pain, he apologizes and shows extreme remorse and sympathy. But, he does not get it. He just doesn't. He has never experienced pain like this. I just wish he could spend one day - just one day in my body and mind and go through the pain and really, really get it. He's lost both of his parents but that didn't really break his heart because they both suffered from dementia and it was kind of a relief when they passed away. He has never felt real pain. I know that there is no way he'll ever understand, but I just wish...................

Posts: 892 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
2kidsandadog
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex's bad karma started the day I left!! And now three years later, he lives in an unfinished basement with a mattress on the floor! The irony is that he was once quite wealthy as a young man and pissed a great deal of his fortune away on HIMSELF!

Yeah I'd say his karma bus hit pretty hard!!


Divorced 05/11/11 -
2kids - 20 and 22 (Thank God for them)

Too many Ddays to count. Enough said!


Posts: 693 | Registered: Oct 2011
wontdefineme
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The best karma would they end up by themselves and broke.. The two things they thought would be better without us. Old and lonely, best I could hope for.

Posts: 2116 | Registered: Mar 2011
EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, for mine the karma bus was actually driven by him and the details surrounding his ability to keep his CDL. When you haul tankers full of hazardous materials, you have to go through federal background checks and fingerprinting, etc. It's especially difficult when you weren't born in this country and you didn't safely store important documents. He doesn't like paperwork, I'm the one who always took care of those INSIGNIFICANT details. Now he's in a pickle and, guess what? After repeated requests from his lawyer to help him with the paperwork, I just reminded her that the two of them believed that I never did anything worthwhile in the 20 years of our so-called-marriage. So, since paperwork wasn't a big deal, they could do it themselves. And I specifically said, "Good luck with that." He has to go through a couple of federal agencies and at least two state agencies now, maybe more. I don't keep track of those things anymore. It isn't to be spiteful. It's because I cannot deal with the drama and I will not allow myself to be shat upon ever again.

[This message edited by EasyDoesIt at 3:27 PM, December 15th (Sunday)]


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

Posts: 3686 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
steadfast1973
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Flame  Posted: 3:57 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope the next guy's wife is not as stable as I am. I want to see that whore burn.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2212 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, there's the whole fantasy of:

WH: Every time he opens his mouth the truth comes out (like in Liar, Liar), every time he drops his pants his cock glows bright blue and a klaxon goes off saying "Warning, cheater alert"

OW: Same thing, except it's her fanjo.

Can you imagine them crossing their legs,dying for a wee, but scared stiff to use a public toilet? Then their sex lives would be...interesting, especially if they are still together.

Seriously, though? Just for both of them to really realise what they've done to themselves, and to us. It's funny isn't it, that's the thing that really scares them and what they run from the hardest.


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - my friend 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - EA/PA - 'Fat Bottomed Girl'


Posts: 722 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope he and Mow both die slow and painful deaths. I'm not dwelling on it or bitter, but a girl can hope.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7411 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
justjim
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm holding out for that flesh eating disease for the Hell Bitch.

Hope it takes it's time when it shows up. I've got LOTS of popcorn.


Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe it's the season, maybe it's the question, maybe it's just me. I have been thinking about this thread all day. If I had the choice of the karma, if I could decide what happened, what would it be? It would be that he did what he had to to make it right, not for me but for the kids. That they would see their dad redeem himself and repair their relationships. That he would show my boys and my girls what it is to be a man. That they would see him be humble and know that isn't a bad thing.

If I had the power to chose none of this would have ever happened to him. He wouldn't have reached for someone else, he would have called me or his best friend, his brother, anyone other than her.

I don't have that power, I don't have the choice now just like I didn't back then. I can only chose my karma. I chose to wish him the happiness that he left for and I truly hope it is the best, I do. Cause he sure gave up a beautiful life and so many people who loved, respected and admired him to go after that happiness.

I am okay on my own and maybe he knew that. He kept telling me that I was stronger than him. Maybe he knew that I would leave him alone and go on with my life. Maybe he really never did love me and she is the love of his life, I don't know and it isn't for me to say. I know what I had for awhile and how special it was to me. I will always be grateful for that. That is my karma for me, to be grateful and to move forward wishing him only the best, cause I can't live with that hate in my head or heart.

[This message edited by IrishLass518 at 8:37 PM, December 15th (Sunday)]


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1673 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I feel a little petty after Irishlass's beautiful response, but the truth is...I want him to be lonely and I want him to realize what he destroyed and regret it. He can even move on afterwards and find happiness - I just want him to see it the way I see it once.


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 383 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
steadfast1973
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Target  Posted: 7:23 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dday is still fresh for me... Some bitterness is allowed.

I don't want to punish my husband (more than living with me, and watching me go through this pain, and being powerless against it. That's his karma.)

But really. I want that whore dead. Dead. Worse, i want her friends and family to know what she does for a living... I want everyone in her school to whisper and point when she walks by.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2212 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
TheAgonyOfIt
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I aspire to IrishLass's gratitude and peace!

But while i'm still in the trenches, I would like to see him cry tears, in front of me, feeling my pain and feeling pained for causing me pain.

It actually hurts me to imagine him in so much pain, but I think it would be cathartic for us both.

I don't know if that fits with the karma question, but there you go.


Me BS 49,Him: narcissist! Truly. 5yr++ LTA. DDays 4/2013, 2/2014 true Jekyll Hyde. Planning escape from truly narcissistic abuser. Have ridden wicked emotional ride. Now teeter between disgust and abject pity.

Posts: 546 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: theagonyofit
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want OW to get a residency in Alaska or Hawaii... Some where really far away.

I want XH to be beyond broke from OW using him and paying me child support.
It would be nice if OW cheated on XH so he can see what it feels like.


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 635 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
jstbreathe
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

May the fleas of a thousand camels infect their genitals.


The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 18 years
2 sons, 11&15
Trying to R

Posts: 149 | Registered: Sep 2013
kourt090
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I could pick the karma then I would be able to have total control of the karma with no legal ramifications. This would strictly be for AP. Think Law Abiding Citizen.......


Kourt090

Posts: 292 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Utah
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would wish for peace, happiness and contentment for my FWW. That one day she will be able to put an end to her emotional suffering.


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 29 years, Happily Reconciled

Posts: 5622 | Registered: Aug 2007
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For xww I just wish she'd get healthy for my step-daughter's sake.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 3650 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
LoveHerStill
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Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish that OM would do to XWW exactly what she did to me. Cheat on her for 6 months, then abandon her and move in with OW while he divorced her, while lying to everyone about it, then marry the OW on XWW's birthday, and cut contact with her. XWW is terrified of being alone and this would scare the shit out of her. It would also hopefully help her understand the living hell I was forced to endure.

Although I believe no one should ever endure infidelity, I believe that it is the only way XWW would ever "get it."


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


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